They say that good things come in threes
When I created the theme for an episode of Live Sessions*, I hadn’t realised quite what I had stumbled upon!
‘There’s power in numbers. Numbers are everywhere in our lives. If you’ve ever noticed that you keep seeing the same number sequence everywhere you turn, chances are it’s not by accident.’
‘The rule of three is a writing principle that suggests that a trio of events or characters is more humorous, satisfying, or effective than other numbers. The audience of this form of text is also thereby more likely to remember the information conveyed because having three entities combines both brevity and rhythm with having the smallest amount of information to create a pattern.’
The three words, concepts that I linked together
are what I now feel compelled to refer to as a Mantra For Life!
It really doesn’t matter who you believe you are in this world, it still applies
Think it, Own it, Live it!!!
How powerful is that? It’s amazingly powerful and let me explain why. It begins with thought and what we have in our unconscious and conscious mind. When those thoughts are based on a universal love for life and everything in it, a sense of compassion and knowledge that we are part of a greater consciousness. To have a state of awareness to provide a freedom of happiness and fulfillment and a sense of purpose in life. That is where it starts to open your mind to the endless possibilities before you.
To Own it: one must first of all accept themselves unquestionably, understanding any perceived shortcomings, not as disabilities but as who we are. Able to accept that we are very different and yet so alike in great depth. Take control of your everyday life, breaking the old habits of an indoctrinated upbringing that is imposed upon us from childhood. To know who you are and where you are going in life, with certainty and without doubt.
To live it: Bring together your conscious and unconscious thoughts and align them with your real time life. Live what you think and believe, 24/7. No hesitation, no guilt, no doubt, no uncertainty, just solid conviction and understanding.
I know that I have made this appear quite simple in describing it in three short paragraphs. But, I know more than anyone how much effort you need to invest in yourself to arrive at this stage in your life. Absolutely nothing of value will be gained with such ease ever, something that I am sure you are aware of already. Qualifications of any kind that allow you to earn a good salary, to be able to play a musical instrument, create great works of art, be an incredible athlete. They all take great effort and commitment! Why do we not invest that level in ourselves automatically when it can make such an incredible difference to our lives and the world that we live in?
During the time that I have been back on both TGH and CDH, I have written a number of articles to share my knowledge. In addition, I have become very well acquainted with Char, who also is a prolific author too. As I hope you are aware, together we create and produce the Live Sessions broadcasts and videos that are now featured on the sites. A collaboration that came about after I had edited several of Char’s articles and became more familiar with her thinking and how she lives her life. We now regularly spend hours and hours in discussion, exchanging ideas, experiences, and thoughts. I speak for myself here, but have no doubt that Char will agree with me when I say that we have enhanced each other’s outlook and views on a continuing process of elevation that we are both experiencing in our life journey. We are privileged and honoured to be able to refer to each other as a great and valued friend, while we are on other sides of the world and have never met in person. We are connected in a way that surpasses physicality. A friendship that I feel will last a lifetime.
I need to conclude that while this is a belief now, and that I am happy to have, I realise that I know very little in this expansive universe. However, I feel that I have progressed to a greater level in my evolution as a human embodiment of my consciousness.
A Mantra For Life
I finish by suggesting that you adopt the mantra – Think it, Own it, Live it, into your daily life, maybe create some unique version for your own life! Start each and every day by singing or chanting them as you go about your daily routine, when in the shower, driving your car or anytime you feel you need to lift you spirits. By doing so you will be engaging your mind in something quite special and bring about changes in your body and spirit. Do your own research about mantras to learn more about their use and power in self help. I think you may be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.
*Episode 3 of Live Session: Think it, Own it, Live it
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Think It, Own It, Live It. Easy to say and believe, but like you say, Sophie, not so easy to do.Thank you for your wise words. Trees grow, life grows, it’s natural. I want to reach my natural, comfortable in my own skin state. This mantra is a powerful towards that end. Thank you for your wise words. I just am fearful that at 63, I’m too late. But you encourage me to become myself and all will fall in to place. I’ve never felt a “life purpose”. Maybe by finaling figuring out who I am, my purpose will arise.… Read more »
Hi Jamie, Thank you so much for your kind and positive comment, it is highly appreciated and am grateful of your time and contribution here. I need to inform you that I was 63 when I discovered how to accept myself and now on the verge of becoming 68 this month. Do not let your age get in the way now! You owe it to yourself if nothing else, to live the remainder of your life as you choose and in happiness. Stop being a victim of life and start living it with passion!. Let nothing hold you back now!… Read more »
Hi, Jamie. I think it’s never too late. I started my transition at 66 years old, and I am so thankful that I did. We can do it, hon. Like said, it isn’t always easy, but not beyond any of us. And it may just take a super degree of trust, something that may not be easy for us. But we can learn to trust ourselves enough. The hardest thing for me was understanding that I am good enough to deserve my own self love and respect. I am worth it, and so are you. So are all of us.… Read more »
Hi Carly, your words are encouraging (both you and Sophie) about discovering/start late in life. Thank you. And about self worth, always a struggle for me: I DO deserve self love and happiness. Just have to get over how others will react.
Ditto on the chatting; love our chat time too!
Peace and Love,
JaiymeLynne
Sophie, Where were you when I was a child? Question is how to get there from here. I’ve spent countless hours discussing these truths with my therapist. It seems simple but how to unravel the birds nest created by 65 years of life can be overwhelming. Figuring out how much of everything that defines me was true vs. distraction from my internal pain can be complicated. On the other hand my life has brought me to a place that gives me a great sense of accomplishment that I probably couldn’t have achieved if transitioning was a possibility when I was… Read more »
Tonya, I think that I was pretty much in the same place that you were as a child in many ways! Trapped from an early age in the fake male mode which I made a mess of time and time again until the age of 63. It has taken me a great deal to get to where I am today. A lot of pain, for me and those in my personal life, both wives and children. I can’t change the past, but I can create a better future and have done. My level of understanding has developed by the absolute… Read more »
The biggest thing that I’ve gotten from the transgender heaven website is the common thread we, especially the older ones, share. I’m so glad to have found it. Your insightful comments make me feel I’m not alone.
Thanks 🙏
The biggest issue I contend with is the feeling of selfishness .I know so many people who have dealt with unimaginable horrors and manage to go on. Sometimes my needs seem trivial.
BTW
Just got 2#s of fresh chanterelles.
Yummy!!!
Thank you this article, Sophie. I firmly believe that you have written a truth, that we are who we allow and make ourselves to be. I’m not sure that it really matter whether we, with a gender dysphoria, choose to transition, oe to remain as we were born, as long as we understand ourselves and make a free, self determined decision with acceptance and thankfulness. i’m reminded of the words from the stage musical and movie…”Don’t dream it. Be it.” I love your positive and affirming attitude, as well as your contributions to our site and lives. Peace and love… Read more »
Hi Carly, Thank you for such a positive review of my article, it really encourages me so much to receive such kind remarks. My own life feels like it’s moving so fast somethimes that I have to stop and take stock of what is and has happened from time to time. To acknowledge what I have created or experienced, trying to be aware and recognise the changes and the stumbles along the way, and to correct things when needed. We will always fail at some point, but the power is in recognising those moments as well as the great moments.… Read more »