Does that make me a Nobio?
I created a new word Nobio for the purpose of this article. A term to describe someone like myself that cannot be defined accurately through science. I’m not sure how others will perceive it, but it emerged while reviewing the text that flowed as I typed, appearing as if by magic on my computer screen. All in coordination with the sound of keys being struck by my fingers as if I were a pianist composing a new melody. Only time will tell!
I’ve been on hormone supplements for over four years, (now thankfully on a prescribed treatment plan). Since oestrogen was introduced into my body, my chemical balance has clearly changed to more resemble that of a natural woman. During the first year of taking supplements, I went through the many stages of emotion surges, overloads, waves, and crashes, until my body became familiar with the new cocktail it had to deal with. I know this was real and was confirmed four years later when I finally had a prescribed treatment. Three months into it I was asked if I were experiencing anything different since applying the prescribed dosage of oestrogen gel.
The truth is, I really didn’t feel the same high level of emotional changes or fluctuations. The way I could quickly be brought to tears and back again without knowing why. The shock to my body chemistry had already taken place back then. I believe I detected an element of surprise from my endocrinologist when I replied to her question.
I had already and happily accepted before I took the medical route with my transition, that I was born a male and am a father of two children, I can never change that and do not wish to. I prefer not to get into a headlock with feminists over the issue of referring to myself as a woman. I respect and understand the biological differences that I will always have, no matter how much surgery I wish to subject myself to. It does not, however, stop me from knowing and saying that I am a woman, in my sense and interpretation of that word and in relation to being transgender. The latter term is one that I do not really like but accept in the same way that I am not a cis woman, no matter how I feel.
A chemical cocktail
Knowing the chemical changes that had taken place over the four-plus year period, I truly believe that I am a woman, as far as I can ever be. To be more precise – and will become, during the course of this year and after surgery. I will still be biologically a man, but my body chemistry and mind will not, along with the lifestyle that supports my beliefs, world, and self-perception.
No, I will never be a cis woman, and will never try to be accepted as one, especially in specific areas of sport or situations and where I am competing with them as if I were one of them. But that is not my passion in life either. There are those who do have that pursuit and find themselves being questioned by many sectors of society and especially feminists. The fact that there are already existing divisions in sport between males and females speaks loudly to me. In one way it makes sense, while in another it doesn’t. I dislike divisions for what they are and how they bring about the separation and segregation of groups of any kind. We are all people, life is not a competition, and Darwin got it wrong, albeit that he did the best he was able at that time!
There is so much in life for which I cannot find sensible answers. About why things are as they are, and how nations of people accept what they are subjected to without consultation or agreement. This feels contrary to my beliefs of human rights on all levels. But getting back to being a woman, I see so clearly how men have been derogatory and disempowering towards women for centuries. The word goddess is now used for celebrities in a weak attempt to elevate the weak to a higher perceived status in society – it doesn’t work for me! And there are goddesses that remain in existence but are not widely acknowledged or presented today, more so in Western culture.
I have observed men, who act in ways that I can only view as being quite pathetic, irrational, stupid, or plainly lacking in common sense. In their defence, common sense is anything but that in all people; it never ceases to amaze me on the levels in which it can surface daily.
The essence of women
Women are the true givers of life through the carrying and bearing of children, support and nurturing of families, and a great deal more. They have been the backbone of so many developments and discoveries – and of men for that matter. They have brought about great steps in learning that has been passed onto and even taken over by men. To an extent that the men have gone down in history as the creators.
One particular group of women have been described as the first human-computer. A large group of women worked together using adding machines during World War II. They broke codes that altered how events followed and would be written into history. Instead of their value and efforts being acknowledged, and developed to continue, they were requested to teach their skills and knowledge to the sons of the wealthy in England. As a result, those men rose upon the backs and brilliance of those women.
I understand and sympathise so much with a female point of view, albeit I’m late in the day, but I see, and I witness it personally and have done so since the first year of truly being myself in France. This country has a history of masochistic men, which I see now is changing with the younger generation emerging into society. Those narrow-minded views are diminishing, but only slowly, and in the ‘professions are still propagated today!
I’ll finish by reaffirming my position in acknowledging myself and my truth. Nobody can tell me who and what I am any more than I can tell them. It’s a two-way street, provided they are able to be accepting enough themselves and who they are in their own truth. If they are unable, that is fine too. I understand not everyone can be where I am with my own beliefs and acceptance of others. I am able to forgive anyone, providing they are not aggressive in trying to impose their beliefs on me.
My root thinking is “Live and let live”. If others cannot live in that way, I sympathise with them. I do not have to agree with them or them with me. We are free to be who we are and believe what we wish. If it causes no harm to another then there really is no issue and no harm done. This is how I live my life and interact with others.
If only this were a global mindset!!!
Perhaps captured in the lyrics of James Brown and Betty Jean Newsome in 1966 that reached number one in the charts, these have the essence of life!
It’s a man’s, man’s, man’s world
But it would be nothing
Nothing without a woman and or a girl!
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Yes and YES !!!
As others have commented, thank you for putting these words of logic and heartfelt longing for a society where we can all “just get along”. Although we may not all agree, to understand a truth that we can all agree to disagree, and perhaps even discuss, philosophically converse and perhaps move forward as a society, and thus allow all people to recognize themselves for who they truelly are, and simy be happy in life. Cheers Sophie!
-Erika
Dear Erika,
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your thoughts with everyone.
I like to suggest that we can create change for good if we believe that is possible. We do this daily in our lives but are so often unaware that we do it.
I feel that we are moving towards this on a global basis and try to feed that by seeding it here.
Love and hugs
Sophie
I absolutely agree with your Comments. And I think things are getting Better for alĺ of US.
IF WE ARE OUR SELF’S..
DOES NOT MATTER WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF US….
WE ARE WHO WE ARE…just believe in our SELF’S 💕
Dear Jessica,
Thank you for your powerful reply, I am grateful that you shared that with us all.
I sense from your profile that you are quite aware of who you are and like that.
When we can find that is when we empower ourselves and open up the possibilities to change our lives for the better.
I send you my love and hugs for a wonderful life and future
Sophie
Thank you for your heartfelt posts.
I support your decision one million percent.
Like many different changes, it will take the general public , a long time to come to understand transgendered people
Times are changing towards transgendered people.
I am glad, you made the right decision, for your life.
It must have been hard for you, during this process.
I completely support your and many others, who have transitioned to being a female.
Much success to you and others, in the days and years to come
Hugs and kisses phillysis
Dear Phillyis,
Thank you for your kind and supportive reply to my article.
I am impressed by how many have chosen to comment on this particular article above all others I have published here.
I feel as if I have touch hearts and more with my words.
You all empower me to continue on this path, that I feel is the most real and true part of my existence.
Love and hugs
Sophie
OMFG girl you hit the nail on the head again and blew my mind it’s crazy you actually make it easier with what you said for my stepdad to understand me my mom already does even though she still find it a little weird just because of the physical changes but she accepts it and loves me for it it’s just different because well prior to now last time my mom saw me I was a little 5 year old boy so talk about quite a shock LOL but this article is fabulous it’s great it’s… I don’t have words… Read more »
Dear Kylie, I begin by quoting English author Edward Bulwer-Lytton, who in 1839 released this into the world – “The pen is mightier than the sword” I continue by focusing on the power of words and what can be achieved when used with honesty, truth, love and sincerity. That the written word is my chosen weapon to fight for truth, justice, honesty and integrity in a world that has lost it’s way and appears as if it has gone completely mad! To say that I am blown away by your comment is an understatement! I began publishing my article here… Read more »
Well I have read this now three times. I am in awe and in tears. You have so eloquently captured the true essence of this life than I have heard in a very long time. My Congratulations and best regardes. Anna
Dear Anna, Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with everyone in your beautiful and touching reply to my article. Your comment is breif yet powerful and moved me greatly with the way you were brought to tears in reading it three times! In this amazing journey that we take ourselves on there is a mixtre of happy and sad parts to this if we allow that to exist as a belief. Of we can simply see life’s journey as a path of learning where we will face many challenges, hardships and blissful moments. They are all required and… Read more »
Thanks for sharing. you were heard.
Dear EJ,
Thank you not only for ‘listening’ but also your time and energry to read my article and leave your comment.
I am grateful to you.
Love and hugs
Thanks for sharing. You were heard.
Me, myself, and I do “listening and seeking” in a spiritual sense, for “us” (me, myself, and I).
“We” learn to accept others, as we learn to accept and love ourselves.
Thus we (“us”) practice “fellowship”, and thus we practice humility, integration, and anonymity as we are present to others, and thus present for them to be “heard”.
helpful to me:
adultchildren.org
https://hellagayaca.mailchimpsites.com/
coda.org
corrected links:
https://adultchildren.org/
https://coda.org/
Another terrific article and I’m really glad to see that you’ve addressed this very important topic which inevitably comes up during the process of our transition and continues to follow us to the end of life. There has been such a debate over this whole concept of our authentic femininity and brings a range of very diverse perspectives from the cis community as well as within our own trans network. In the early days of my transitioning, back to the late 1970s, it was a vastly different perspective than it is now as there wasn’t the broad, umbrella term of… Read more »
Dear Juile, I think could be the reply of all replies!!! Thank you for sharing that valuble response with everyone, also your wondeful compliments which are always gratefully received by myself, and from all that find something in my writing. I could not stop thinking that your comment could be an article in response to mine, giving another’s view and life experience. It is all highly worthy information that can help others who are the early stages of their own journey. Life is simply a cycle and that exists as a part of nature. Hence, we go through pretty much… Read more »
After reading this I feel as though I’ve returned from a long eye opening life altering journey.
What an amazing article, overflowing with so much experience and insight.
Well worth multiple re-reads, thank you!
Dear Rei, Your reply here encapsulates so much of what I try to create within my articles, and yet you are the first to comment in that way. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us all here, it is valuable and useful for others. It is impossible to know what or when something may appear in our life that has meaning and enlightenment in ways that shift our view of the world and who w are. They only happen when we are ready to receive and be able to understand them. I dare to suggest that you are at… Read more »
I am but a student Sophie and I appreciate you extending that offer.
Sophie , we should always write from the heart , it’s how our souls express itself and communicate with the world .
Hugs
Alexis
Excellent article Sophie !
You touched a lot of the truths out there that we all face as human beings .
Alexis
Dear Alexis,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us all.
I am grateful for your time to read it and reply.
I feel like I am writing from my heart and soul recently and that may have made a difference with this too.
Love and hugs
Sophie
What a wonderful point of view, thank you so much for shearing.
Love and huggs
timmie
Dear Timmie,
You words are knid and gratefully received.
I do my best and believe that what I write is worthy of reading by many.
Thank you.
Love and hugs
Sophie