Change the negatives into positives

This simple act can provide such power to your thinking, improve your life and world beyond your imagination! This may not come to you easily, as most worthwhile things in life rarely do, but believe me it is worth every second of your time to accomplish this.

The principal is relatively basic; it requires a shift of your perspective thinking and the belief in possibilities yet undiscovered! Perhaps the simplest way to demonstrate is in presenting an example of this powerful ability.

Understanding what is happening

Here is an example, and one that sparked my reason to write and share this. It came about after the events of yesterday:

Yesterday, late in the afternoon I learned that a curfew was being imposed tomorrow where I live, and all across France, from 9am to 6pm for one month. We are not supposed to leave our homes between those hours. My immediate reaction was an emotional mixture of feelings. Some were based on my learned and programmed behaviour and some from my disappointment and the implications it held for future events that I had planned.   

En Femme Style

Separate from the obvious limitations of not being able to socialise with friends or to go out when I choose, there were more sensitive issues concerning my personal life — on a much more important level to me. The most important was the continuation of electrolysis in Paris, with two appointments booked and train tickets purchased for dates in November. Not to mention that I was hoping to reconnect with a French trans friend whom I’d met three years ago and invited to go out for dinner to celebrate my birthday. The situation appears as if none of these events are likely to take place.  

Understandably, I felt a little angry and extremely disappointed. The anger was mild but nevertheless, it was anger. It’s an emotion that I rarely encounter, one I try at all costs to avoid and consciously release from my life. It was while in conversation with Char, my Canadian friend, author, and life coach, in explaining the situation that I came to the realisation that I needed to redirect the negative aspect and energy I was feeling and to put it to use in a positive way that would benefit me.  

Instead of focusing on the negative aspect of a curfew, I chose to adopt the mindset that this was in fact a great opportunity for me! The force of the curfew imposed created a surge of emotions, ones that I would redirect into positive and constructive energy and use for my self-development, mediation, and learning — all to my personal benefit. To use the power and energy played on me with bad intent and claim it, re-channel it in a better direction to further my own choices and decisions. One of the first notions to emerge was the idea to describe this event in an article and share with you all.

Since making that conscious choice I have felt empowered by my decision in turning this around as a positive outcome by changing that which began as an extremely negatively charged and uninvited moment in my life. One I had initially believed that I had no control over; a result of my programmed thinking of 60+ years of faking it as a man, my life of compliance and submission. It’s a life I have happily exchanged for one where I am more aware and more in control.

Always a matter of choice 

We always have a choice in what we decide to believe and accept. What is a belief? It’s certainly not the truth! So, we need to pose questions to ourselves as we go through our day; what choices should we make in controlling our own destiny and life? When you are able to achieve this you can be objective and not subjective to what you encounter and experience daily, thereby allowing yourself to filter and select the right direction to guide your life towards that which you truly wish it to be.

Surely, nobody would knowingly wish to be a victim of life and would rather consciously prefer to be firmly in control of their life and to create one full of happiness, love, and contentment?

I send to you all my love, compassion and gratitude and encourage you to be your true self always.

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Born in London, England and a life long journey incorporating two marriages and a long relationship that eventually brought me to France. My two children and all of my family are fine with my choice to finally be the person I have always been. I am a creative, artistic soul who loves good food,cooking and real friends. Will I ever fall in love, will someone fall in love with me and does it matter? I have the love of my family and some very good friends in my life

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Shawna Layne
Shawna Layne(@shawnalayne)
2 years ago

Well written and well received Sophie! Wishing you love and encouragement as well!

Hugs, Shawna

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