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(@sashabennett)
Eminent Member     United Kingdom, Caithness
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The TV seems to be full of adverts for Viagra these days. I've always hated my male anatomy, certain aspects more than others & really can't stand what is generally deemed desirable by the producers of said products. I find it deeply depressing that I have no need for such medication. Obviously I'm trying to avoid any graphic details here but if anything I tend to suffer quite the opposite problem. To use a phrase I once heard "You couldn't kill it with a stick". So my question is, does anyone know of anything which would have the opposite effect of Viagra? Smoking & bad diet haven't worked so what else can I do. P.S. I know HRT would probably do the job but I'm not in a position to go there right now.

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Estimable Member     Australia, Queensland, Brisbane
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@sashabennett Sasha the best way to prevent erections is to reduce or block testosterone. Whilst not HRT it is frequently used in combination with HRT. There are a few options which are not terribly expensive however here at least a perscription is needed for all. I recommend Bicaluamide which has been used for many years as a treatment for prostate cancer. If you do go down this path you need to have a full set of labs done first as it potentially can cause liver issues.

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(@sashabennett)
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Eminent Member     United Kingdom, Caithness
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@mistressb That's interesting to know, thank you. I'm just trying to think how that conversation with a doctor would go? I think it would almost be simpler to simply ask for HRT.... LOL. As I am in a very remote location the local surgery doesn't hang on to doctors for any length of time. We are on a permanent rotation of locums up here & they rarely stay for longer than a month at a time so it is impossible to build any kind of relationship with a doctor. I would think that it would be quite difficult to manage any kind of transition when you have to keep going through the details at every visit. It's bad enough for normal medical issues never mind such a long term project.

It sounds like I'm being down on the NHS, actually I'm not, the people who work for it are doing their best under difficult circumstances & as I know only too well, have been literal life savers in the past.I just find it frustrating that it has been allowed to get this bad.

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(@emilyalt)
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Estimable Member     United States of America, California, North County San Diego
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@sashabennett 

Being from the US, I don't know much about the NHS and how healthcare works in the UK.

I agree with @mistressb regarding testosterone blockers.  They will get you the results you are looking for.  While blockers are not considered HRT on their own, they can and often do result in some breast growth.  Suppressing T will allow the small amount of estrogen your body produces to activate the estrogen receptors in your breast tissue.  Hence breast growth.

Obviously, estradiol in conjunction with a T blocker is going to be more effective at feminizing your body.  It will also have a pronounced effect on your mental health and emotional wellbeing.  For me, that's been the most positive change.

The most effective way to reduce T is by getting an orchiectomy.  This removes the source (testes) of nearly all T in your body.  To get an orchie, you may need a diagnosis of gender dysphoria from a qualified clinician.  Living in a remote location with a rotating cast of docs may make that challenging.  And that brings me to my last point.

Like I said, I don't know much about healthcare in the UK.  Is it not possible to do telemedicine visits with a qualified gender medicine specialist?  In the US, this has been a lifesaver for patients that live in far-flung remote places.  Something worth considering.

Gender dysphoria really sucks.  I hope you find a solution that works.

/LK

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(@sashabennett)
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Eminent Member     United Kingdom, Caithness
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@emilyalt Thankyou, those are all valid points. I would probably be able to go down this route privately but I was looking for a "more off the shelf" solution. As I said, I am aware that HRT / T blockers etc would achieve the desired results but I'm not in a position to go there right now (see transitioning barriers for my reasoning on that).

Obviously, having a vested interest in the topic, I have read up extensively over the years & not found a satisfactory solution yet but there is always more to learn, you never know if someone else has come across the answer until you ask

Sasha

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(@kaydee65)
Eminent Member     Canada, Ontario, Hamilton
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Hi again Sasha, my Dysphoria is more on appearance and needing more feminization after the ravaging of testosterone so many years. Unlike you I like my parts but want to be femme on outside as I feel inside so I am trying social transition under therapy to see if I can manage better. Although HRT is always on my mind, but my SO of 46 years who I love and adore won’t accept me fully living as a woman. Hence me managing a dual presence to cope with all of life’s demands.

KayDee

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(@sashabennett)
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Eminent Member     United Kingdom, Caithness
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@kaydee65 Hi again KayDee, Friend request accepted, thank you for asking.

I must say Mrs B would (probably) continue with her understanding nature, she isn't at all bothered by the fact that I spend pretty much full time in a dress, forms, wig etc, at least when I'm at home. I think however that she would be supportive rather than happy about it were I to go further right now & like you I have no desire to upset the love of my life. I have reached a point now that I am happy with my appearance most of the time but it's beginning to feel like I need more than just that. 

The idea of going any further though is somewhat terrifying. There are other people & things to consider, even though many might (& do) say that you have to be true to yourself, no one exists in isolation. In an ideal world such a big change would be accepted without judgement, sadly it's not so & that being the case, like you, i am managing a double life.

Therapy is not for me, I know myself all too well, one of the benefits of age being wisdom. I don't believe that a complete stranger would be able to tell me anything about myself that I don't already know, besides, getting any sort of medical attention is getting damn near impossible in the UK these days. The current waiting list for an initial assessment with a gender therapist in Scotland was 7 years the last time I looked!

Anyway, I'm waffling on a bit so I'll leave it there for now but thanks for your thoughts

Sasha

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(@michellelarsen1)
Noble Member     United States of America, Virginia, Front Royal
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I have always been an advocate of 'you make the best decision you can, at the time you need to make the decision, with the information you have at the time'. That said once you do, you have to be prepared to not look back and lament that you should have done this or that other thing. And if you can make that decision, based on all those prerequisites, then no one can have cause to critique what your decision was. You have to be you, and live your life the the best and fullest you can, in order to achieve your own level of happiness and be the asset to society we all strive to be. If you choose the path of HRT, then great, if not, then that is equally as great. The same hold true for any surgeries that may, or may not, be in your future. Are you happy, do you have a plan, or working on one, for your future, and are you a respectful and thoughtful positive member of this, or any other community? Those are the keys. Hugs

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Eminent Member     United Kingdom, Caithness
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@michellelarsen1 HRT & surgeries are a dream which seems unlikely right now. Fortunately I am mostly content right now but things seem to be moving in an inevitable direction. Planning? not so much, I'm along for the ride & looking forward to the magical mystery tour that awaits.

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@sashabennett What? Not planning.... Just along for the ride..... Nope, I don't think so..... You see, you are here. That was step 1 of a plan. 'Along' and 'forward' are also part of planning. So yes, yes you are planning, even if it is in the very early stages of formulating that plan. Some guy (Thomas Watson Sr., CEO) at IBM had the famous 'THINK' on his desk. Thinking is planning. Hugs

 

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(@sashabennett)
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Eminent Member     United Kingdom, Caithness
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@michellelarsen1 Well, I guess by that logic I must be then. Lets just say there has been nothing formulated at present. However there is plenty of thinking going on so the future must be bright.

Sasha

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(@reallylauren)
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Reputable Member     Canada, British Columbia, Victoria
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@michellelarsen1 Oh Michelle, such amazing words and wisdom to pass on to these sisters!  Thank you!  This point of view mirrors my feelings on the subject perfectly.  The paramount thing we must keep in focus is, we have to be true to ourselves, it is not our responsibility to pretend to be somebody we aren't just to keep the world around us happy!  Hugs

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