I spent a long time in denial, in hating myself. Eventually I sought the help of a therapist and she was amazing for me. She helped me accept myself and understand a few things that were probably obvious.
I know I am transgender. I know I have gender dysphoria. I really do want to transition. I can't bear to see my body or to play this role any longer.
But I love my wife. She is the most wonderful person on this earth to me. She has earned her immunity from having to deal with this and I don't want to lose her.
How can I move forward?
Hi Beth...
I take it you haven't told your wife yet ?
Gen ❤
Hi Gen,
No, I haven't found the courage. I just can't face losing her.
Beth
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Beth:
Getting prepared for whatever may happen sounds like a topic to be discussed with your therapist. Know that it is very hard to make a prediction as to what will happen. Some couples stay together, some do not. For some, even though they may separate, they remain friends and some do not.
I think the only thing to say about the future is that “It Depends”...
Thank you for sharing. I have delt with what you are going through also.There's an article here I liked the article about dropping hints. You know, go ahead and cry during a movie, go shopping together, do feminine stuff together. I lost one wife and tried to hide who I am. I got married again and this time I couldn't stay in denial anymore. I came out not only to myself but to her. I don't know if it's going to work but I am content with myself and at peace. That's what I have been missing in my whole adult life. If you find nothing else but peace within yourself then you have won half the Battle of life. Stay strong and just exude love. You'll be fine. Everyone here will help support you. They have me.
Hi DeeAnn
I really appreciate you taking the time to respond and for your wise words.
You are of course right.
Thanks
Beth
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Unfortunately none of us have crystal balls. I think there a number of factors involved in how we move forward. Personally I do know of people who stayed together and others who have not. Due to the unpredictability it would seem to be an area where you would need to rein in ones expectations...
Hi Bryn,
Thankyou so much for your reply. It meant a lot to me. I so agree about doing feminine things together. I do try to do that already. We are best friends and we do everything together. I wish I could just take the next step. I am such a coward. It's almost as if I am waiting for her to ask me. I'm so happy for you being out to your wife and that you can be yourself with her. I wish you every happiness.
Thanks again
Beth
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