What's the best advice you ever got for transitioning?

My Mentor Denise, asked me to think about what I was willing to lose in order to be happy being me.

I know I could lose a most of my family and friends, and worse case scenario I could lose my job and my ability to provide for myself. I really hope that dont happen. But its something anyone of us should consider when making any changes in our lives.

Several people told me to go get a counselor.  Self reliance is how I was raised and not seeking help when you can figure it out yourself was the mantra.  While it doe lend toward self assurance and confidence it blinds you to fully appreciating all the wonderful possibilities out there.  It also lends toward placing up your own barriers of protectionism to keep yourself away from truths that are scary,  The counselor helped me tear those barriers away to reveal the truth within my heart.

Wonderful advice! Though I figured most of it out on my own and the therapist was more a formality required by WPATH than someone who helped me figure it out. The confirmation itself was valuable, gave me a lot more confidence.

Yes, I went through that exercise and I came to the conclusion for me, that it was not worth having anything if I couldn't be myself.

So far the best piece of advice I have gotten came from Dame Veronica. Be calm, be honest, seek a good counselor and just be truthful to your spouse. With these tools I will be able to figure out who I am and which gender I should be. While I am leaning strongly towards the conclusion that I am female in heart, mind, and soul I cannot reject the possibility that the body could be correct. With counseling I am going to find out the answer to my dreams and I hope to escape the nightmare. Hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ 💋👠

Danielle

Hello everyone.....what I have to say comes straight from my life and observations from being around the world.  The whole point of living is to enjoy oneself. Most humans want to be happy and our 100 year life span is spent doing this. However...we loose track of happiness because we get side-tracked accumulating a lot of things we think we want and that will make us happy.....sure you will be a small while. But...protecting these things and accumulation of stuff....costs us dearly...now we must work a job to make money to buy more things that is gradually killing our souls and happiness. As I approach the end of my life, I look back at all the things I was involved with and accumulated and ask myself....did this make a difference....did this help humanity in the areas where it mattered? No.....it "don't mean nothing".  Be the best you can be to create happiness and contentment......that means something. Spread joy upon yourself and others. You wish to be a girl? Go ahead and go for it.  Study those around you....talk to those who have gone before you and seek their advice talk with the girls of CDH and TGH.....a wealth of good advice and how to. This is what I have done and I am now content and happy. It is my goal now to help others obtain happiness and enlightenment. The Master said...."to be truly free....bind yourself to nothing" We want to leave a legacy of happiness for when we are gone to the next life.....our fussing and thrashing of this one will matter not in history. Leave the legacy of happiness with the next generation to enjoy.

Dame Veronica

Listening,listening,and learning. I consider myself a very lucky girl,I've only hit a couple potholes so far. Yes i started electrolysis asap ,I listened.I told my therapist i was soo looking foward to my future. He said one day at a time. This is the happiest time of your life enjoy it. Im attending voice classes for the transgendered community.  I'm really listening.  Talking to the other girls listening and learning. Im embracing my journey ive waited so long for this,so thankfull.