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(@flatlander48)
Noble Member     United States of America, California, Cathedral City
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Earlier this year I received a phone call from a friend. She said that she was putting together a program for International Women’s Day 2022 called I’m Speaking! and asked if I would be willing to speak along with 3 other women. I said Yes very quickly because I knew that anything she organizes will be thoughtful, sensitive, on point and laced with a bit of humor. What I chose to talk about was my journey from my hometown of Toledo, Ohio to my arrival decades later in Cathedral City, California. The title is: From THERE To HERE. It includes my thoughts and learnings on Gender Identity, Coming Out and my experiences with the Women’s Community.

 

The link below will take you to my secure storage where you can download the video of the event. Note that it may take a bit to download as it about 3.5Gb.

 

https://web.tresorit.com/l/xqAAq#waX2u4oQhE5AGOEDS8iSOw

 

My speech starts at 32:15 and runs for about 13 minutes. I also responded to a couple of questions. Those begin at about 59:54 and 1:08:09 respectively. However, I recommend listening to the entire program as the other speakers are excellent and thought provoking.

 

In appreciation, we were all presented with Certificates of Congressional Recognition from our Congressman, Dr. Raul Ruiz:

 


 

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(@reallylauren)
Reputable Member     Canada, British Columbia, Victoria
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Wow, DeeAnn! Congratulations on a wonderful accomplishment, we're all so proud of you and what you are doing to benefit our community of trans sisters. Way to go girl!

Love,
Lauren M

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(@flatlander48)
Noble Member     United States of America, California, Cathedral City
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Thank You so much!!

I think what was, and is, important to me is the message that there is no right way to come out and no right way to transition. We all have to do what makes sense to us at the time…

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Noble Member     United States of America, Virginia, Front Royal
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DeeAnn, looks like the dictionary is in need of a serious update. Why, because I cannot find a word to express just how powerful your words are. Not were, but are.... Your words will ring true for years in the future. Your words are a mentor to many as they discover their true selves. It is an honor and privilege to know you. Hugs, Michelle

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Noble Member     United States of America, California, Cathedral City
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Thanks!

One of the things that frustrates me is that society tends to view us in a very narrow and limited way, but that is not the reality at all. There is a considerable range of sexualities and gender identities that our group represents. Statistically there are concentrations, but there are also outliers and MANY of us fall well outside the narrow confines of what society thinks. That’s why the idea of visibility is so important to me. It is something that I can do that, sadly, many others cannot. Further, it doesn’t bother me in any way to know that I am an outlier and a walking contradiction. I’m OK with that because I know, and enjoy, the fact that the essence in human life IS diversity. I’m sure there are others like me, but there probably aren’t to many who have driven race cars, built computers, and have done carpentry and plumbing, but who also thoroughly enjoy thrifting and leaving the house in a silk blouse, short skirt, heels and a bold hat. I would really rather not live in a world where everyone dressed in beige and drove grey Chevys. That is just not my vision of how the world should be.

Anyway, I do hope folks here will watch the entire video. The other 3 women are all exceptional in their own unique ways. The only one that I didn’t know before hand was the artist Nancy Worthington, but I knew of her by reputation. I was am impressed by all of them and glad that they are within my circle of friends.

As Des’rae said: “Time’s much too short to be living someone else’s life!”.

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Thank you DeeAnn for doing this and representing our community. You are a model for all of us. Marg

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To All Who Have Responded:

I just wanted to let everyone know that I really appreciate the kind and supportive words. It is a bit like hearing good things about your kids. It is a reminder that you did something right and people noticed. So:

THANKS SO MUCH!

I think what it comes down to is pushing the envelope a bit for all of us. Clearly, that is not an easy thing to do, but it is so important.

I live in a relatively accepting place. Cathedral City is next door to Palm Springs, but the other end of The Valley tends to be somewhat more conservative. People like to think of California as such a liberal place in general, but it amounts to pockets. Back in 2017, trans woman Lisa Middleton was elected to Palm Springs City Council. At that time, she became the first transgender person to be elected in California to a non-judicial position. So much for being very liberal. Anyway, I feel fortunate to know her and watch as she provides great leadership for Palm Springs and a great data point for our community.

The thing is this. Whenever we interact with those outside of the community, it serves as a reminder. The reminder is that the world is populated with other people other than straight white males. As such, we (speaking of all facets of the LGBT community) bring a unique set of perspectives and experiences that wouldn't be brought forth otherwise. I am not saying that we are confined to those unique perspectives and experiences. Rather, they are additive to whatever else we bring.

To those who are visible, keep doing what you are doing.

To those who are not, I encourage you to consider how you can raise your voice for all of us.

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