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(@beautifulpaige)
Eminent Member     United States of America, Pennsylvania
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Hello Girls, my name is Paige and although it’s been a while since I’ve last written an article I’m back now and would like to share so many things with all the girls here.

Remember that we are all here for the same reason, that this is an amazing place that Vanessa has created for each and everyone of us to feel comfortable and safe.

I know most of you here are probably afraid to come out to family and friends but once you do, you won’t have to worry about hiding your true identity anymore.

The point of no return is that once you pass the point of no return it’s easier to continue forward rather than go backwards. I live as a female and it’s the most amazing feeling in the world. It’s not the outside that matters, but you have to believe in your heart and soul that you are a woman. I’ve spent years hiding but not anymore, it’s such a wonderful feeling that people see you as a female and call you pronouns like miss or mam and using the ladies room in public without anyone correcting you.

The COVID 19 is a blessing in disguise to cross dressers or trans girls because your face is half covered so with a little eye makeup no one can really tell.

Let me tell you a true story that happened to me yesterday. I usually don’t wear much makeup when I have to just go out to run errands or shopping, but yesterday I wore makeup and let my hair down instead of wearing it up. Anyway, I had gone to the drive thru of my local bank to make a withdrawal and was refused because they said I wasn’t who I was ? They asked me to park and come inside so they could look at me to see if I was a male or female. I told them point blank that I was a transgender woman and that I would answer any questions to make them happy. I gave them answers to three security questions and told them the last four or five transactions, I even opened up my bank app in front of them and to open it you needed fingerprints and a Face ID, they wouldn’t give me the money. After waiting for about an hour with the manager, I was told to bring more proof, so I drove back home to get my birth certificate. They finally understood that I was transgender now and no longer living as a male but as a female full time. To tell you the truth I wasn’t embarrassed and they actually made me feel good inside, because I knew that they saw me as a female and were in disbelief that I looked so real, they apologized and told me that I was very pretty.

It’s not what’s between your legs that makes you female it’s what's between your ears. If you believe in your heart that your a woman that’s all that matters.

You have to blend in and not over do dressing in public, study genetic females how they dress, act, walk, talk and feel confident.

It took me years to come out to family and friends, some accepted me and some didn’t, but I live life for me and that’s what matters.

I think one advantage that I have is I’m very petite and thin, I’m only 4’11 and weigh about 118 pounds. I also have natural long hair, almost to my waist, to me having long hair is what makes me feel even more feminine. It’s so nice going out shopping at girls boutiques with not one person looking at you thinking that’s a man, it’s an amazing feeling that words can’t explain.

Right now I’m going though something - getting ready to lose my mother who is in a hospice dying of cancer throughout her entire body; it’s heart breaking for me, because once she passes and probably before thanksgiving, I will be alone in the world with no family. I know I have friends here and that touches my heart to know that.

The hair salon I go to twice a month knows I’m transgender but treat me like a female, as a matter of fact the girl who styles my hair said we should hang out sometime, telling me I was very attractive, but she said if we go out as girlfriends try not to look better than me and she made me laugh.

Thank you so much Vanessa creating this amazing site for us to be ourselves, I hope everyone here finds the right path to follow on their journey whether they are married or not please, don’t hide your true self, they will either accept you or not but in the end it’s worth it.

May God bless each and everyone of you, stay safe and well, hopefully one day society will accept us, after all gays and lesbians are accepted so transgender girls should be too.

Love and Happiness, Paige xoxo

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(@mustangtoni)
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Estimable Member     United States of America, Florida, Tampa
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@beautifulpaige hey Paige. Just read your article it was very encouraging and you look great! Hugs to you Toni

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(@Anonymous 31383)
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@beautifulpaige The bank got one thing right, you are beautiful.  You were very patient with them to your credit.  I am glad you preserved and they finally acknowledged you.

i am very sorry about you Mother and will be thinking of you.  I hope you can spend a lot of time with her.  Love,

Melissa

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(@beautifulpaige)
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Eminent Member     United States of America, Pennsylvania
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Thank you Melissa
I’m alone in the world and have no family my younger brother passed away last July and both of my parents are deceased but I’m thankful for my health and friends like me you although I’ve been through some serious surgeries including a recent heart attack but God has watched over me and I take one day at a time
I recently adopted two beautiful kittens from Forgotten Pets because my two previous cats had to be put to sleep so my two beautiful sister calico kittens are my family and fill the empty ness that was in my heart ❤️
Happy New Year to you

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@beautifulpaige hi Paige

great post! You are so right about being who you truly are and how authenticity brings such peace and joy.  Blessings to you and your Mom

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(@beautifulpaige)
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Eminent Member     United States of America, Pennsylvania
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Thank you Amanda

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(@flatlander48)
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Noble Member     United States of America, California, Cathedral City
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@beautifulpaige There is an old saying that captures something that you said:

Sex is between your legs,
Gender is between your ears.

It is unfortunate that often cisgender people can think of nothing more enlightened to say than:

”Have you had the operation?”

It would be interesting to see how they would react to inquiries about their genitalia.

Regarding being out in public, I think many trans women need to be reminded that the vast majority of cisgender women do not look like Halle Berry, Ann Hathaway or Penelope Cruz. Rather than obsess about our looks, we do the best we can with what we have to work with and go forward with a good and positive attitude.

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(@beautifulpaige)
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Eminent Member     United States of America, Pennsylvania
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Your absolutely right
I never worried about what people thought or said in my heart and soul I was a woman
Clothes or makeup don’t make you a woman it’s your inside that tells you that you’re a woman and I live my life for me and till the day I die I will always be a woman
You are so nice to me and honored to be your friend

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(@nayana)
New Member     India, Mp, Bhopal
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I am crossdresser, family support me, iam indian.hence wearing women clothing as sarees salwar kameez suits. I drive car and take outing with mom and dady. I take between ess for both mom and dad. Use to wear vagina panty and breastform. I am happy with the help and support of mon and dad.

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(@leslieanne)
Trusted Member     United States of America, Virginia, Roanoke
Joined: 6 years ago

Paige , hi , i lost my mom three years ago and she was my only kin , so i know what you are feeling and what you are going through . I have came out to only one man , i care for him and have known him since high school . He was getting ready for knee surgery and said he was ok with it . Its been several weeks and i haven't herd anything from him . I hope i haven't lost him as a friend , i guess time will tell . If and when he decides to visit i will meet him as Leslie and tell him the whole story . Paige i wish you peace and if you need to talk , need to speak to someone who understands PM me and i will answer . Please be strong for your mom , tell her how much you love her and don't miss any time with her . I have tears in my eyes i so miss my mom i wish i had said more to her , i guess we all do . Your friend , Leslie

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(@cloe-anne-webb)
Honorable Member     United States of America, Virginia, Fairfax
Joined: 6 years ago

You are beautiful Paige!

I think I may have been a little more upset at the banks behavior when the security questions had been answered, but I have no problem sharing my identity when there's a legitimate reason. Today, I addressed "the elephant" in the room with a coworker at a new job who knew my whole history from personal connections. It was freeing to just let him know I didn't care who knew as long as it didn't effect my employment. In fact a few others there had worked with me when I was a client of this company and I'm certain they're aware. (I sense more elephant crossings).

I'm slowly losing my mother to dementia, it's tough to know what is coming, so I just make the most of the time I get with her even if she just can't process why her son looks like a woman.

Hugs,
Cloe

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(@msmichellejrenee)
New Member     Canada, Ontario, St. Catherines
Joined: 4 years ago

That has to be very upsetting Paige. While I don't know where you live I'm assuming that you are in the U.S. You gals certainly have more issues to confront than we do here in Canada. In Ontario where I live, I would have lodged a complaint with the Ontario Human Rights board. That bank would never have been allowed to treat you the way they did. Once you passed their challenge, that should have been the end of it.
I have spent my last 6 winters in Florida and it is always more of a challenge for me. It's even worst when you are Canadian. Maybe things will improve with Trump out of the picture in January. Never the less I am going to miss not being in Florida this year with our border being closed. It's going to be a shock to the system Christmas shopping in the cold and wearing a mask on top of it.
Best wishes in all your future endeavours. I could only wish I had a face as cute as yours.

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(@marciewalko)
New Member     United States of America, Wisconsin, Elkhorn
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What a wonderful story. I would like to think that I would be thrilled to have the same issue with my bank. Maybe I will in the future. But I rarely interact with them personally.

I really like the way you put things about BEING a woman. It's more than just the outward appearance, but an attitude of being feminine. It's the persona that matters the most, and how we see ourselves on the inside. Not the unfortunate birth defect between our legs.

I am taking the advantage of mask wearing too, with a little eye makeup. Wearing some leggings, my padded push up bra, form fitting top and low cut boots, along with a pink gator mask, I don't get any second looks or mean stares. Just some older guys checking me out. Not sure what to think about that, but I don't mind since I'm middle aged too. Nice to know that I have sex appeal, even though I'm big for a woman, but average for a guys size. No I'm not interested in guys either, considering myself to be a lesbian. Yes, it's all about just blending in with all the other women. I'm realizing that's the best way to do things, even though I really enjoy dressing up. 💃

Thanks again for your post to keep us all encouraged. Nice to know others think the same way I do.

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(@middleground)
Estimable Member     United States of America, Ohio, Ashland
Joined: 3 years ago

Paige,
I had so much fun reading your article. You are absolutely right. You have to be yourself. You have to let your own spirit soar. I am so much happier now. I'm not petite like you. I'm 5'11" and 158 lbs, but my surgeon and her fellow in training one day after my surgery called me petite. I laughed and said to them, "You must be kidding!" They said they were serious. I'm told all the time I'm very thin. I guess, although I'm a tall girl, I'm petite in a way, too.
Whatever, it has been three-quarters of a year since my definitive bottom surgery, and I'm so happy being a girl!

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(@julieta)
Eminent Member     United States of America, Florida, Bradenton
Joined: 6 months ago

Thanks for the story. You sound like me. I just wanna be seen and treated as a woman. But I have a long journey ahead of me to 100% pass as a woman.

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Eminent Member     United States of America, Pennsylvania
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It’s your inside not your outside that matters
Never give up and above all never worry about what others think

Love❤️Paige

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(@julieta)
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Eminent Member     United States of America, Florida, Bradenton
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@beautifulpaige Agree chica. I care about what I think about myself. The feelings, thoughts and vision that I see feel think are all from me.

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