I’m the beginning of your MTF journey and or self acceptance has anyone discovered that all along you’ve been attracted to the femininity of females and not actually sexually or physically attracted? Feel like I’m going through that now and just was curious if anyone else has.
Yes I have discovered that also.
Just yesterday,I had a friend that was just finding out that I'm trans. Trying to tell me I'm attracted to females, and that I am always looking etc.
I had to explain that I am always studying and learning from the females around me. Actions, manners, clothing, everything.
Quite simply, I adore women and the feminine form. In my fantasies I’m always pleasing them. Hugs Katie
Great question! for me it’s both. i’ve had the physical attraction as an AMAB does, but when i see a beautiful woman i also feel envy because i want to be her. that feeling has become most predominant for the last 10 years or so and that tells me i was deeply in gender dysphoria then. when i was younger i was pretty inept at dating and pretty inexperienced in sex until i got married. i knew part of the reason was my feminine feelings which caused me to hold back for fear of being outted.
Yes, we are attracted to all things feminine, the love of feminine beauty is part of our very being! I have been that way as long as I can remember. It has gotten me in trouble during both of my marriages, I always had to explain that I wasn't eyeing other women, just what they were wearing, their hair, outfits and their makeup. I often had to endure the slightly sarcastic reply..."Sure"
Now that I have transitioned, I'm in love with being as feminine as I possibly can at all times.
Hugs girls,
Lauren M
I have always been attracted to women, I love their company, love being around them. One of the few real joys of my pre- coming out trans days was the rare occasions I was accepted among my female friends as a sort of "honorary one of the girls" and included in their intimate discussions.
A big part of delaying transition had to do with getting the message when I was younger that in order to date girls I had to be a "guy", so I struggled mightily to shoehorn myself into just enough of cishet masculine normality to be accepted as a heterosexual male.
It was excruciating and exhausting, and I wasn't very good at it: I was too soft, too empathetic, too disinterested in traditionally male things.
I often thought of myself as a Lesbian trapped in a man's body.
As I got older and learned more about transgender possibilities, I recognized that my attraction is for "femme", not cis women per se.
I'm not terribly attracted to "butch" women or many "tomboys". I like soft, smooth, smelling good, breasts and curves; dresses, skirts and lingerie, bling, makeup, and hair; but I'm not overly concerned with crotch plumbing.
There's the old trans awareness question along the lines of "Do you want to do her, or do you want to be her?" I feel I can honestly say both!
When I started HRT, I wondered whether that would alter my attraction circuits, so far not appreciably.
I'll confess that I have found an appreciation for attention from pretty traditionally presenting males, I feel flattered and validated to hear from a man that he is attracted enough to me to tell me so, I've even pondered accepting an offer to go out, but I'm doubtful I'd want it to go any further (does that make me bi-romantic?).
Basically it's still femme that get my motor running, they're the ones I still check out on the street.
I agree. My past is somewhat similar to yours. It’s amazing how much you discover and how you thought things were when you are going through self acceptance.
Seeing as how the sexuality of trans women is as varied as that of cisgender women, femininity and attraction may coincide, but for others it may not...
