Yes I do see how you are correct about society and the molds of male/female emotions. I also see the social circles of both and how emotionally each has different rules. Girl world would have been tougher to navigate than boy world. All the games girl world played against each other to position oneself socially and set the pecking order. Kind of like the movie “Mean Girls”. I actually love that movie and the princess movies with Julie Andrews and many others I’d never mention to any of the guys! I love all of the teen movies of the eighties (Jon Hughes and those types). Plus many other chick flicks.
I agree that a woman cannot run around all emotional and in tears but they are more open than men with their positive emotions like laughter, happiness, friendships, and the physical results too like hugging, touching, brushing hair out of another woman’s face, and the like. Yes men brood and it is easier to judge how most men feel by their facial signs. Men do let the more negative emotions out a lot easier than women which I am getting a better handle on myself. But men ostracize themselves from each other physically and emotionally because it isn’t manly to hug in the same way, touch in the same way, sleep in the same bed as friends.
I see how we are the next generation of outsiders becoming a norm in society, like the hippies and bohemians. I also totally agree that the LGBQ+ community doesn’t always understand the T community because they are not having a gender meltdown of a sort. A sexual orientation is not gender identity but someone with gender identity can have an other than hetero sexual orientation. I sometimes think this is what confuses many people when they think of the community as a whole which we are associated with. It is so easy to see someone who has a different than hetero sexual orientation but not easy to see someone who has a gender identity conflict.
I am so happy the DSM and the ICD are now in agreement that who we are is not a mental problem nor one that can be cured. So when we are associated with the norm and the Psych and Medical communities agree on who we are and how best to help us along with government and insurance companies what’s next? Of course that’s just a rhetorical question because nobody has a crystal ball 🔮, lol! There are still 28 states where transgender discrimination is not against the law whether at work, housing or medical care. I live in one of those 28 states. I own my home, I work for an amazing company (children’s hospital), and I have great medical benefits plus so does my wife on all 3. So there are exceptions within this state. But as a whole we are still discriminated against daily, beaten and worse, denied basic human rights and some people could care less about us. This is slowly changing unless our magnificent president gets his way in which case it’s time to move to Sweden or the Netherlands where our rights are protected. There are other countries but I just love these two for their laws and people.
Time for me to get off the soapbox and close this novel, lol 😂!!!! Take care.
With love ❤️ and hugs 🤗
Danielle 💋💕
I didn’t play with Barbie when I was young but I did watch Full house (I had a crush on the middle sister) and Saved By the Bell. I didn’t know those were girl shows! I feel so betrayed! I have so much shame to make up for now! No but I liked this video because even if you don’t play with Barbie it appeals to most people on the level of being told you have to be a certain way because of your genitalia. “Oh no you have a vagina so you mustn’t eat ice cream with bananas.” Uhhh? If you tell people a lie enough times they will believe it.
I feel like since my daughter was born I am less resistant to watching shows that were traditionally for girls/women. I still choke on my emotions when in public. I hate it so much! I was talking to a coworker the other day about a scene in a Viet Nam War documentary and almost started tearing up. They were interviewing someone in the North Viet Nam Army and he said “I would see the Americans go to their dead and cry, just like us.” It makes me so sad. Every time we send kids to kill and die they are told they are fighting the enemy but many of them realize they are fighting people that are not so different to themselves. But I swallowed my tears and was ashamed that I even showed emotion. Even telling the co-worker it was so sad made me feel ashamed. I hate that so much. Now I’m sad, great. I’m going to go listen to music and work out.
