I'm so glad I'm not alone in this. Good luck to you.
Thank you,
A. Marie
If I could physically be there and hold your hand I would but since that is not possible I will do it virtually instead. 👭 You are a good person and you deserve the opportunity to be yourself. Take that 1st step knowing that you are not alone and that those of us who have already taken these steps are with you in spirit.
Kind regards, Rowena👩🦳
Throw rocks at me now, but I think we are not doing a very good job in educating the public of who we are really. I can understand why. We want this and that from our leaders, safety, equality, etc. we waive our flags, and add letters to our acronym to continually add more individuals to our cause every day it seems. People are confused, frustrated with us, fear us as an unknown, see political leaders use us as pawns to advance their careers. It’s a whirlwind of confusion where everyone involved is trying to make a case for their concerns. As a large group of individuals with a common characteristic that underlines who we are as people, we cannot agree on a simple umbrella term that needs to be used to identify who we are. No, instead we insist on categorizing everyone with a label so as not to cause any confusion in identifying who we are. It’s insane. How can we ever get someone not identifying as Transgender, to understand and accept Transgender people. We are not weird, we are accountants, doctors, engineers, nurses, carpenters, electricians, athletes, the list goes on. If we continue to keep ourselves and the rest of society confused with definitions that make us feel included we will never get acceptance. Society has no idea how many crossdresser alone there are, hell, we don’t.
Maybe it’s time we regroup as one piece of society. Maybe we stop cutting up our identities we think suits us to justify our own ideas of who we are, to advance our individual interests for the greater cause for all. Maybe we could just be represented by one word, all of us, crossdresser included. Maybe we can just be a part of society represented by white and blue collar people, athletes, poets, politicians, who just happen to be Transgender, not weird.
If we can figure out and accept who we are, maybe we can teach the others in our society we are not so bad either and we can contribute to society just as well as everyone else.
No, the issue is that we, as a group, are not out enough. Visibility is EXCEEDINGLY important. I can’t remember the exact numbers, but here in the US somewhere around 65% of the populace knows a gay person. However, the number for trans people is only around 30%.
Think about the Serenity Prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Thinking about trying to change reference terminology is not unlike changing course of an ocean liner. On the other hand, every day, EVERY DAY, we can make a choice to be visible.
That is what speaks VOLUMES and what we need to do.
How do I manage? Poorly at times, better at others. I don’t think in terms of two sides. At the best of times, I see myself the same regardless of what face I am presenting the world. That face is a matter of personal convenience. Am I being true to myself? I would say, at least for me, the truth is on the inside, so yes, I am.
This is surely a compromise and probably won’t work for many.
I had this problem before I had sex change surgery. Especially for a while, I wanted to be a woman so badly that I had to wear men's clothes and pretend to be a man, which made it even more unbearable. So then I set a time for myself to become a woman, maybe on the weekends or at night. Especially at night, I sleep like a woman, give myself delicate skin care, and finally light the aromatherapy, the whole process helps me to fall asleep quickly, and sleep very comfortable. You can try it, too.
Now I have truly become a transgender woman, I am a woman all the time, so there is no such trouble. I also live with my boyfriend now, we don't sleep together at night, and sleeping in his arms can also fall asleep quickly. That feeling is very reassuring and comfortable.
If you need to, you can also find a boyfriend, with a boyfriend you can be a little girl anytime, anywhere. My boyfriend and I met on a transgender dating app and he treated me with respect.Because of him, I feel like I was born a woman.
