I don't even know how to go about doing this. I don't even know how to identify myself, so I guess I'll just give it my best shot and hope it doesn't offend anyone.
I was born Female and currently still hold the physical features of a female, however, since a very, very young age, I have felt that I identify far more with the male population. Now that I am an adult, it's affecting my life in negative ways and making it hard to function knowing that I'm male, but everyone around me rejects this and tells me I'm female. I came here in hopes of getting more information on the subject of gender dysphoria and how to handle it. I would like to make a more educated decision on what to do with my body to make it match more closely with my mind. If I could get information and experience from other people going through similar things, I believe it would help me greatly. I'm reaching out here in hopes that some of you can help me, and perhaps I can even help some of you.
Please feel free to reply to this, I am looking for as much interaction with people like me as I can possibly get.
Xelyn
I would guess it's more complicated then confusing. I do not believe that there is one answer that fits all. I think that you are doing the right thing in gathering information. As long as I can remember I have had the desire to be a woman. I have periods that last for many months without my gender crossing my mind and I have periods where I can't stop thinking about it. I live as a male with two wardrobes, I can pass about 80% of the time during the day and 99% of the time at night.
I would suggest that you decide what would make you happy, life is too short not to be happy. Unfortunately, especially with gender dysphoria, your decisions may lead to losing people you love. For me, I could never have told my parents, but after 20 years of marriage I did tell my wife (after a long road she understood).
Best of luck
ever since I was a kid I all ways felt like a guy, but IDK sometimes I don't mind being a female. even though I identify as a male. I'm feeling unconfutable so by now.
Hey Xelyn. I totally get what you mean. I’ve had an extreme dysphoria my whole life. It’s been the driving force behind a lot of my depression and anxiety. I would strongly suggest therapy. Finding a therapist was the best first step I could have taken. If you want to chat more about this , feel free to shoot me a message.
Hi Tiana. I aspect of dysphoria is enviromental impact and up-bringing. On the farm with being with a number of brothers, and another sister..... clothing was hand me down and Dad treated us like all the boys...work wise. Being a tomboy (trained by my brothers) didn't help. Eventually I became a girl too much to the chagrin of my family. Go to a councilor or Psychologist....they can sort things out for you.
Veronica
Kind of always felt the duel spirit,native Americans speak of. the wrong body for my spirit, that was always my feeling from a very young age.
felt at times i needed to abandon this body,but had to find another path than doing self harm,came close a few times,but here i am now better than ever,having crossed the great divide into my place of peace.
Hey Tiana,
I am a mother of FTM son Peytin. He is diagnosed with gender dysphoria, anxiety, mood disorders and insomnia. We seen a therapist for the first time 2 years ago and she diagnosed Pey with gender dysphoria. Along the journey and many medical professionals, he got the rest of his diagnosis. It's a very long journey but a beautiful one to finally be who you are comfortable to be and love. Pey finally loves himself after many months of intensive mental therapy. This therapy was to help his anxiety and suicidal ideation from coming out to friends and family who turned their backs on him. I always tell him those who matter care and those that dont care, dont matter! Keep this in mind when you do decide what you are comfortable with. If you would like to speak to a mother who doesn't know it all but has been through a lot with my son, I would love to chat. My son is the love of my life and I am in full support of his life decisions no matter what.
Hi Xelyn, I will never understand why anyone would want to change a beautiful female body into a male body while I have spent over 60 years hoping that I could do the opposite.
I will however offer my full support for you to do whatever you need to, to align your external self with your gender identity and not wait anywhere near as long as I did.
At 66 years old, I am only 18 months into doing what I should have done over 50 years ago.
I do strongly recommend that you plan your own future path while all your options are still open.
You will need professional guidance for this.
I wish you the best outcome for you.
Hugs
Sheryl
