Daisy:
As a new member, I encourage you to do an introductory post in the “Introductions and new members” forum and complete your Profile as best you can. Both help the other members get a sense of who you are and what is happening regarding your journey.
If possible, I suggest that you not use all capitals as, in internet etiquette, it is often viewed as shouting...
Growing up I knew something wasn't right I hated going to gym I would do whatever I could to get out of it. And then using the bathroom at school I couldn't use it. Still to this day I can't use a rest room don't even want to go inside one. then when I was growing up, I hated getting a haircut. Today I feel at my best when I am being me and doing and wearing what I want. I do have times where I don't feel I want to go out in public and wish I could fix it. Just never fit in
Hi my name is Sarah Jane i am in the same position as you.
I came from the United Kingdom
Also I would like to become a woman
My wife does not want me to be come a
Woman.I have been like this for a long time i just cannot get it out of my head so I don't really help you.
“My own father, who promised to support me even if I transition into a male, blatantly stated that “no matter what, you will always be my little girl” which I found both heart warming and terribly, terribly heart breaking”
Thanks for sharing… the above really hits home for me. My mom was closer to me than my male siblings and told me how much she appreciated that she could freely speak to the girl she always wanted. We talked all the time. I wish I appreciated that more then, as my embrace of my trans self would have brought her joy, even if she couldn’t outwardly express that. I know that because she also admitted that dressing me as a little girl on the beach as a toddler did bring her great joy. She could see and embraced my feminine side in a way that others couldn’t. My embrace of the female name she would have given me is a huge hug sent back to her through time. Thank you
Hello, I'm Jessica. I'm new to all of this as well, so I wouldn't trust myself to give you any advice. But I will say this... I am SO HAPPY and extremely excited to be the girl I've always known I am.. It may be hard for people to accept, and i know life after transition will be rough from time to time. But i know that it will be nothing in comparison to the absolute Hell I have been through, the shame I have been forced to feel, the anxiety and panic i have had, and the general unhappiness of my life living in this stupid man suit. These girls here have helped me to feel better, and reveal more and to more people, little by little, and the happiness in my life already is so powerful... Oh my God it feels so Good. I can't even find the words. Now here's the kicker: I am so disappointed this couldn't happen SOONER. My life would have been so much better. My life...my REAL LIFE...is just now starting. I've wasted so much time worrying and feeling ashamed. Im 42 years old, and i WILL transition (M2F, BTW), and if I'd been able to do this when I had my looks...wow. so yes, gather information as accurately and quickly as you can. Don't waste time. Because dysphoria is one thing..but in your HEART, a person KNOWS who they are. When i was a child, I was a girl..and i knew I was..and it breaks my heart that I let someone take my whole life away from me..well, at least half of it.. A child just is..a child is innocent..doesn't know why they feel male or female, but I promise you...a child does know. How did you feel as a child? Male or female? That's more than likely who you are. Whatever you decide, I'm behind you 100%, & I'm sure we all are. The people here are amazing..you are where you need to be. I love you. 💋
💕- Jessica
P.S. Hey, I'll trade you my hardware for yours! 😏
I also regret not transitioning when I was a 20 yr old, I had the looks and a girlish figure. Now I’m on HRT for 2 years at 63 yrs old. My advice to anyone who has gender dysphoria is to begin your transition as early as you can, I don’t think it ever goes away with time. I was very unhappy living as a man for most of my life, and already I’m calmer and happier.
Hi,
I'm Lir, nice to meet you! I thought I'd add in my story. I am FTM and am awaiting my first visit with a gender therapist but, when I was little I never considered myself female or feminine. I usually was friends with boys and didn't get along with many girls. I didn't like most of the games that the girls at school played and I would be climbing trees and trucks or rolling in mud (my mother often was upset with how dirty my clothes and hair got). When I learned about transgender I often wondered if I was but, didn't want to accept it because I was worried that would make me a gay boy. When I was 20 I decided to ask my friends and family what they would do if I was (hypothetically) trans. They said that they would support me but, I shouldn't do anything if I wasn't going to be happy with the results because after a point the changes would be permanent. I decided to take some time again because I wasn't entirely sure and I needed more information. Last year I talked to my family and GP and now I'm just waiting to see the therapist.
Let me know if you have any questions.
Rachel,
You are so right, I finally revealed myself to my wife after 45 years of hiding from reality. I am much better now and she loves that I am not depressed any more. She never ask why I was and I thought I would have ever tell her. Finally I did as it does weigh heavy on your psyche. Now I’m ready for the next step. But being 67 (68 next Monday) I now wished I had done it sooner. Don’t be like me, I thought I would get over it. I was wrong. The sooner, the happier!
