Hi,
I don't remember if this has been posted before by someone else, but I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions for good trans dating sites or what the best ones are? Or is it better to go to LGBTQ places and try to meet people IRL?
@inuyasha Well, from my perspective, I wouldn't consider any online stuff. Chalk it up to my older aged cautious sense, but too uncertain for me. Plus, I'd never post them here anyway. People are, well, people people. We thrive on physical interaction. Heck, I'd feel far better in joining a local group, or find a support center. We have often posted about an online directory of Community Centers; CenterLink. When someone has mentioned that they were looking for a support center close to them, the first thing I do is dig in our own Local Places directory, and then looks at CenterLink ( https://www.lgbtqcenters.org/LGBTCenters ). There is also a great online source for get togethers for all sorts of interests from MeetUp. If you like chess, they have that, or boating, hiking, playing cards, square dancing.... You get the picture. If humans do it (PG-13 rated of course), they probably have some group that gets together to do it. I've never been one to want to spend time with someone just to date. I find someone with similar interests so we have something in common, then develop that into a friendship. If it moves to dating, then so be it. If not, you just made a good friend. Hugs
Thank you for the advice, MeetUp sounds interesting.
The downside with online dating is that you can't really tell if someone is real or if they are just faking, but with in person dating then you have to approach people and try to start up a conversation (which can be intimidating).
- @inuyasha You are so right sister, A few years ago I found myself in a really emotional and embarrassing situation, I was so heartbroken, He had done everything right ,he was kind and sweet told me everything I needed to hear, and when he got what he wanted I never heard back from him again,😥I was so hurt,So now I’m very careful and learned some lessons, But with that being said , I would try it all over again if I thought it was real,But cautiously, and face to face, But we all have to be very careful,Thanks for sharing,❤️🌹
A trans woman looking to date men? Many of us would like to do that also. Straight women I think have a tough time also unless they are high-value beautiful. I guess LGBTQ venues are the way to go. Maybe others can say - for me, I have envisioned visiting LGBTQ bars in the metro areas, eventually meeting trusted people who share similar interests, develop friendships, with intimacy coming later. All of society is lonely. I would love intimacy (in varying degrees) with a man but that will likely never happen.
@danikiss22
Actually, a trans man looking to date someone (not sure if I'm looking for a particular gender for a partner or not). Yeah, technology is supposed to bring all people together, but in many ways, it also pushes everyone apart more.
Don't give up yet, I'm sure there's some guy out there that would love to spend time with you!
We live in a big world, and I got to believe it’s all about timing and being in the right place at the right time,Of course I haven’t found it yet neither, so what do I know,
I've never really had a good experience with online or in-person dating, so I quit. I have talked about it sometimes. You easily meet people who are too good to be true and you may end up harassed (which has happened to me) or assaulted (which I've only heard stories about) on some occasions. I actually prefer going out to chat with people I know and have a good time. Sometimes someone interesting comes along.
Gisela
PS: I try to vote other but somewhat I end up clicking on online.
Go out and about, meet new people, mix, be sociable...still the best way.
If you meet in your own town/city you have a chance with shared references. Dating sites: distance is a killer in my experience.
Not only LGBTQ+ people will be attracted to you, life is full of surprises.
It’s tough enough just to find some close friends that you’re able to trust and meet up let alone trying to find one date, I’m from Michigan and they’re not so liberal here, i’m from a rural area which makes it even tougher, most people still don’t wanna to meet up because we’re still stuck in the closet, so to be safe, does a person show up as a man when first time confronting to keep yourself safe, then, from there, go deeper into a conversation a trusting conversation. I have been trying to meet up with a friend either at a coffee shop or ice cream shop, who lives only a few hours away and passes by my place on his way to his cabin, because we both are part time dressers, and we have only text. It still is a scary feeling/situation. We both are older, I told him that we both could meet up as guys to protect ourselves and with being in a rual area, a safer situation, I am not looking for a relationship, but just want to be able to hang out with someone who has the same feelings as I do, and just be able to talk about guys and girls things and the way our lives have been through the years, I think it would take a lot of stress and relief off, just knowing,that we were created the same,anyway, just looking for advice. Thank you for your comments and your friendships here,but from the stories and articles I read there’s a big difference in knowing somebody personally and talking and texting with someone over the Internet.when you meet that person personally there’s no hiding or lies that can be proclaimed like you can over the Internet. Thanks for listening again looking for some advice thank you❤️🌹
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@drose4evr I have my share of problems trying to find my peers in my surroundings. There are certain areas that have to be avoided, which can even be dangerous. So I have pretty much resigned myself to not looking for partners to go out with. However, I think that at some point I will find a solution.
But it's not all bad or hopeless. Luckily I was able to go to Keystone and Esprit last year. It was a great experience. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Gisela
@firefly You are so Brave,At going out and taking a chance for Life, I have to be extremely careful here, I just have to find the right crowd,But because everyone is so careful and in the closet it’s hard to find that person, I try to find that guy that might shave his legs, like I do .I just kind of look at him and wonder, and wait for the sign which usually does not happen, I try to show off a little bit of my cute panties, or as long as I’m careful in the summer I’ll wear some white pants with bikini type underwear on , In hopes that someone would respond with kindness like (Maybe )tell me that they love my panty lines,Anyway Sorry for getting off topic, But you are right It’s tough trying to find that special person that can relate,❤️🌹
@drose4evr we all do honey unless sf gotta keep trying gotta live for fantasies dressing dreams