I am a shy person who is just starting my journey as I have not been able to yet establish a connection with a psychiatrist or a doctor.Β It is a work in progress and many phone calls.Β I come here in peace and respect others.Β Hoping to develop some friendships and learn from others who are transitioning at various stages.Β I have come out to my mother and two close friends, as well I have been able to develop enough confidence to venture out into the world twice as me.Β Wish to be myself for once and not have to put on a show.Β Hoping to find support here and I agree with the Terms of Service and Code of Conduct.Β Please can an ambassador contact me.Β I was told by an ambassador via email that I am welcome here as long as I follow all the TOS and Code of Conduct.Β Thank you.
<p style="text-align: left;">Jennifer...Welcome to TGH... This is a Safe Place to Be Your True Self .Β A place to find the Answers to all of your Questions... all you need to do is ASK..Β Jessica π</p>
Welcome to TGH Jennifer!Β TGH and CDH (sister site) are special places.Β I think you will like it here.
/EA
Helen here Jennifer I do hope you are successful and tthe bet of luck I am sure you will be happy xx
Hello Jennifer,
Welcome to our TransGender Heaven (TGH) site: A Transgender Support Site.
I understand Michelle, our Managing Ambassador has been in contact with you?
Let us know if we can be of any assistance.
We are a wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.
You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
Terri Anne, Ambassador
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<p style="text-align: left;">I much appreciate all the support and guidance from everyone here and the navigation help also.Β Peace and blessings πΊ</p>
Jennifer:
Weβre glad that you found us! I hope the being here will prove to be helpful as your journey continues.
The purpose of this site is to provide support for all in the trans community. It is intended to be all inclusive. That means trans men, trans women and from those questioning their gender identity to those who have transitioned years ago.
However, none of this works unless this site is a safe haven. The rules serve to provide a means of defining acceptable/unacceptable behavior. As you might expect, a site like this can attract a disruptive element and also those looking for sex, as seen through a fetishistic lens. While many here are in relatively decent shape or better, there are also many here who are really struggling for any number of reasons: employment issues, family issues, difficulty in accepting the reality of their gender identity, etc. A site like this works to assist people as their lives progress. Unacceptable behavior can really upset things and we just canβt have that. From reading what you have written so far, I doubt that you will cause any problems.
One issue that happens to a number of trans folks is that of isolation. Often we think that this is only a problem in more rural areas, but it does happen in cities also. Fear and shame can keep people away from the community and prevent friendships from forming, learning from other community members and sharing what we know.
So, are you connected to any trans communities? You didnβt say exactly where you live, but I have some suggestions. One positive thing that came out of the pandemic was that in the US many LGBT centers started doing support and social groups online, I confess that I donβt know to what extent this is true in Canada. I live in Cathedral City, California. I participate in a womenβs chat group most every Thursday morning. In addition to women who live in the Coachella Valley here, we get regulars calling in from Seattle, Las Vegas and Lincoln Nebraska. At other times, weβve also had women call in from San Louis Obispo here in California, Michigan and West Virginia. The ones who call in from outside of the Valley have vacationed here with some frequency or have 2nd homes here or are thinking of relocating here after retirement. In any case, the women want to become connected or remain connected to the womenβs community here.
Now, I confess that I wasnβt looking for a group to join nearly 4 years ago. Someone who knew me fairly well suggested I attend a few meetings to see if I liked it. I did, but probably of equal importance, the members accepted me. I think that often trans women assume that we will automatically rejected by the lesbian community, but that isnβt necessarily the case. Before I went the first time, I put a little thought into this. I know that some lesbians are triggered by behaviors (social, mental and physical) associated with men. While acting βgirlyβ doesnβt really appeal to me, I did make it a point to reign myself in a bit, try not to dominate the conversation, sit in a more culturally acceptable way, etc. In other words, behaviors that are more indicative of women is social settings compared to men.
I must admit, it helped me as it was necessary to think about how I behaved as this is a different world. Women behave very differently, compared to men. In recognition of that, I have asked that a sub-forum be created to discuss social transition because if we donβt understand our social behaviors, we can kill all the good Karma from our presentation, vocal training and surgeries. Or, at the very least, have our gender identity questioned.
You can search for other members who may be near by clicking on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.
I would also encourage you to complete your Profile page. It goes a long ways toward having other members understand whatβs happening for you. Your page will always be readily available and can be updated at any time.
Thank you DeeAnn for taking the time to write to me today.Β I can reassure you that I am not here to engage in any of those unacceptable behaviours and that I do identity as trans.Β There was some time when I was confused about who I am and what my goals are and know where I am heading.Β A sexual lens is not something that relates to me anymore.Β I'm just here to learn as I begin my journey and hopefully make a few friends along the way.Β I started off confused and on the wrong sites.
I am looking to join one of these communities that you mention and was kindly provided some resources to follow up on.Β There are places here in the city of Toronto and I will be placing more calls.Β I will put an effort into not dominating the conversations, I do not wish to make anyone uncomfortable with my presence or feel I'm hogging the conversation.Β I have been very isolated and introverted most of my life and forcing myself to solcialize with others in the community has been a challenge.Β Solcial etiquette and picking up in the solcial norms as well as how I should act is very new to me.Β I appolize if this has been a problem.
Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself in how you joined a group and learned how to act.Β I appreciate this.Β I will take time to fill out more of my profile to help others learn about me.
