so I've struggled with this for a long time and it has finally come to a head. My wife is not supportive of me in this and that scares me a little. I can't remember the last time I wore let alone owned a pair of "mens" boxers. I've worn panties exclusively for the last few years and recently graduated to my first bras. I want to be a woman in the worst way, I'm not happy in a male body and h a ve started corset training to achieve the feminine figure I desperately desire. A significant problem with this is that my wife does NOT approve though ive got her ok either panties. I see s terrible divorce coming and I'm ok with that. I'm not male don't want to be male and only desire to be exceptionally female. Help.
Over the years I hid from my inner self about who I really was. I was afraid to tell my parents even my step mom kind of figured it out but she never put me down she caught me wearing her night gown one night. I have always figured I was a female inside. Today I will be talking to a new transgender dr next week my old dr left the state. So I am looking to make transgender friends. I do have some women friends that are not transgender I have told then about me an the support me.
Welcome Candice. You're in a tough spot...that so many of us have been in. It's best to be open and honest with your spouse as early as possible, then make sure to listen to her concerns and fears. A lot of spouses can't handle it and that's fair. You want to make sure that the friendship and the communication are as strong as ever to be able to handle it all the best you can, together. I don't believe it needs to be a fight just because you're realizing you're not the person you thought you were.
Best of luck. Let me know if you want to chat.
<3 Emily
While the equation is simple (miserable life and difficult marriage vs the consequences of divorce and whatever may happen to other relationships meaning family, friends and work), the solution is not and requires a good deal of serious thought. Perhaps time with a good therapist may help to uncover how you really feel about all of the issues at hand...
