Greetings from Michigan

Natalie,

I think many if not most of us have repressed or have found reasons to inhibit our true expression. I suspect you have not found my posts or responses to many of the wonderful women on this sight. And when I mean women, I truly mean women. I, myself, don't wish to consider myself trans. I feel I now truly am the woman I perhaps should have been for a long long time. I do not deny my prior manhood and feel I had a purpose for being so. We are the few who actually get to know both sides in our lifetimes. I am a girl now, and I plan to live the rest of my life as such. Any help, or just talk, I can provide will be a pleasure to me.

JAKe/Jeri

Hi Natalie, I noticed when you said its difficult to describe yourself. Thats me for sure. It's good to see your input. thanks Mariah

Natalie:

Glad that you found us and, for certain, you are among like minded folks.

I see that you are from Ypsilanti. I’m originally from Toledo although I left in 1990. Since then I’ve lived in Joliet IL, Corning NY and retired to Cathedral City CA. No gloves, winter coats and snow shovels!?!? Anyway, always good to have another Midwesterner in the house!

It is often an interesting thing about running out of excuses, as you put it. We often realize that we don’t have to invest energy in maintaining the facade and that we can direct that energy to much more useful purposes. As Des’ree sang in I Ain’t Movin’: “Time's much too short to be livin', somebody else's life”.

You mentioned growing up poor. I would think that it’d isn’t that much different from the mindset of those who lived through the Depression. One of the things that can happen for trans women regarding clothing and other things is the buy-purge-buy-purge cycle. This is really counter productive to say nothing of expensive. Hopefully your thought processes about money will help to counteract that.

If you would like to search for other members in your area, click on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.

Are you currently connected with the trans community? It is a great way to ward off any feelings of isolation, which is sadly prevalent in our community. In response to the pandemic, many LGBT centers started doing support and social groups online. This is a great help if time, distance or transportation are issues. I suggest firing up your search engine of choice and see what’s out there!

Thanks for putting effort into your Profile page. It really helps other members to understand your situation better. Also, your page will always be readily available and can be update at any time.

Hi Natalie please go for it all the way dont be like me otherwise you will regret it like me.You know you want to so dont hold back. My problem was.I didnt realise I was feminine until my late seventies and I was struggling with health issues.
Wish you the best of luck darling xxx

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Greetings michigander

Hello Natalie,

Welcome to our TransGender Heaven (TGH) site: A Transgender Support Site. We are a wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.

You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
Terri Anne, Ambassador  🏳‍⚧

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Natalie

hello girl. I found myself worried sick someone would find out I was dressed at home, so I changed n redid my nails everything I needed to ho out or a contractor was comming by. it was exhausting. finally a friend said if this is you, get over it n own it. wear your boobs n heels to go shopping n run your errands. nobody really cares. so other than moms or siblings  I've lived as missy since..probably early November. first few trips are scary then you start to realize everyone else has their own stuff to worry about. our boobs or heels isn't at the top of their list. even priest said you may get a few looks but hey  come pray however you wish. so I do. last few weeks even started using ladies rooms instead of mens..n know what? they don't care either. come in do your thing, check your makeup n move on. just like everyone else

I've heard others say they drive an hour away to first venture out.

good luck sweeiie. it's more relaxing n fun when you try it n get used to it.

hugs