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(@wyrmwatcher)
Active Member     United States of America, California, Los Angeles
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I'll introduce myself and you are free to reach out to me or comment on this topic to ask me about what you see.

I'm a transgender man who has been socially out since I was 13 years old. I don't have contact with my blood family, but that doesn't matter as I live with my trans friend (trans man) and trans fiancé (another trans man). I started T injections at 18 and have had double incision top surgery, total hysterectomy (retained my ovaries but considering going back in there), and had metoidioplasty with urethroplasty (UL) and all, but no implants. As of writing this, I'm now 26.

If there are questions as to cost... I qualified for the low income (aka no-cost) state insurance that covered it all.

I'm not a masculine man. I actually enjoy comfortable, plain shirts plus a variety of maxi skirts or jeans, and sandals or sneakers. I believe a man can be and look like whatever you want, so I take that to heart. I don't think too hard about it and I don't care what others might think of this guy with a beard and long hair in "women's" clothing.

My Autism diagnosis might have something to do with my very plain choices in fashion - it has to be comfortable, whether masc or fem, or I won't wear it!

Some people might call the above expression "nonbinary" or something similar, and I think that is fine. I just tend to keep things simple when it comes to labels and say, I'm a man because that's how I live in the world, and I'm transgender because that's how society placed me, socially / culturally. Good enough for me!

I don't mind if you call me "she" instead of "he." As long as you're nice, I'm nice.

So how is everyone else doing?

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 Lir
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(@inuyasha)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Canada, Alberta
Posts: 93

@wyrmwatcher 

Hello, I'm Lir (also FTM). It's awesome to meet another FTM that also has an Autism diagnosis! (it's cool to know I'm not alone).

You're chosen family sounds awesome! (your friend and fiancé).

Umm... I take the "no contact with blood family" means that they weren't very supportive? (you don't have to answer if you don't want to.)

BTW, your username wyrmwatcher is really cool! How did you come up with it?

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(@wyrmwatcher)
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Active Member     United States of America, California, Los Angeles
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@inuyasha Judging by the people I know in my community and more recent demographic studies, it's actually more common than you'd think, being trans and being Autistic. More common than cis and Autistic. We don't know why yet.

Blood family is terrible, enough said. Severe understatement.

I just came up with it randomly. I use the said username for everything, but this one I decided to make it different since I realized there would be forums and I thought I should try to at least make a statement. Wyrms/worms (same thing) are cool, I was a dragon girl as a little kid (basically still am), and the second part is really just random.

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 Lir
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(@inuyasha)
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Estimable Member     Canada, Alberta
Posts: 93

@wyrmwatcher I heard a little bit about the study but, I wasn't sure if it was accurate or if the researchers were biased or something.

Ouch! That can't be fun! At least you have people that care about you (even if they aren't blood related).

It makes a great username though! And dragons/wyrms are awesmazing! I think your username makes an interesting statement.

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@inuyasha We are learning more and more that disability in general is more common among disenfranchised groups: https://www.hrc.org/resources/understanding-disabled-lgbtq-people

This is true too for racial and ethnic minorities and developmental disability - there is an unfortunate relationship between increased diagnoses, proportionately, of these disabilities among Black & Indigenous Americans for example, but with a decreased access to care compared to White Americans with the same diagnoses.

So it's likely compounded even more by gender & sexual identity, as well as by socioeconomic status.

Shows that disability is not necessarily just something that just happens and we all equally deal with - those of us with less resources and less support feel the societal impact of disability much harder. So, it's possible that we are more likely to report it, or that the conditions are more likely to be "disabling" than for those who might have similar conditions but have long since had things figured out via natural and institutional supports, social integration (which LGBT people often lack), etc. I think people are still trying to figure out what the actual reason for this is.

...And yes, dragons are epic (and defy human gender! lol <3 why bother with that when you are a colossal creature of great wisdom and power?)

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 Lir
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(@inuyasha)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Canada, Alberta
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@wyrmwatcher  Yeah, and it's really unfortunate. For a long time there wasn't any information about physical or mental health of minorities, they are just starting to look into much of that now. Which really doesn't help the situation.

Maybe one day there will be a way that everyone can live in society without their differences/conditions being overly "disabling". Though that might not be possible, it's a nice goal/ideal.

YES! Dragons don't need gender, they are too wise for such human constructs.

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(@terria67)
Honorable Member     United States of America, California
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Welcome Ali,

Iusually send a welcome message to new members.  However,

you may want to have a contact with our most active FtM member. His name is Keith.

https://transgenderheaven.com/members/keefjerky/

Terri Anne, Asst Managing Ambassador

 
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(@mustangtoni)
Estimable Member     United States of America, Florida, Tampa
Joined: 1 year ago

Hey Ali   It’s nice to hear from you and we’re happy you’re here onTGH  we are all on our own journeys and it’s nice to be able to get support and encouragement from friends like those who are here hugs Toni 

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