Hi Ladies,
I've been on CDH and finally decided to join TGH. I've been wanting to introduce myself but have been feeling self conscious. I've been wearing women's clothes all my life. I've just recently accepted I'm a trans woman with the help of my therapist. I feel I'm appropriating something that isn't mine by saying I'm transgender since I'm just starting my journey.Β I keep asking myself are you sure and after a long discussion with myself,lol, the answer is always yes I'm a trans woman. My future is a little murky as I need to come out to my wife. I've made the decision to tell her after the holidays. If anyone has any advice on coming out I'm all ears. This is a topic I'm also working on in counseling. Sorry for the heavy intro.
But I'm here to be a part of a community to learn, laugh, and share experiences. CDH has been great and I'm sure this site will be just as wonderful. And above all make new friends!
Hugs
Angela
Welcome to TGH Angela!Β Coming out to your wife is a big step.Β I wish I could say I had a recipe for you but, others had far better outcomes than myself.Β What I have observed is that the most successful was where the couple were very much already in tune with caring for each others hearts, not just the daily living.Β What I'm saying is make sure the marriage and love bond is deep and real first if you want the best chance at staying together.Β Still, this isn't a 100% guarantee.
After that it was still very slow purposeful steps.Β She needs to know what you're doing and where you're going with it.Β This will eventually lead to big questions you may not be ready to answer right now.Β Things like hair removal, hormones, surgeries.Β Β The key to all this is that it's a journey, not a sprint and we're here to support you.
Hugs,
Ambassador Cloe
Wow!
You just put me back in time for a moment!
I don't' think there is a 'right' time/moment to come out to your spouse.Β My 1st ex completely flipped out!Β My 2nd ex accepted it as long as I kept it at home.Β What she wasn't ready for was the extremities of it all.Β When I started buying heels, skirts, and even makeup, she thought I was taking it too far.Β For the last half of 14 yrs, she didn't want anything to with my dressing, she didn't want to see it, she didnt' want to see my feminine wardrobe either.Β I was back at square one again!Β All in secret, all alone in it.Β Β I give her credit for giving me alone time to dress up.Β She'd spend a day at her mother's house quite often.Β The only thing to ruin that time was neighbors wanting to borrow something or ask a question!Β But often you cannot quickly shed out of some things to answer the door, much less, remove jewelry as well and dont' forget the makeup!
Thank you Meran and Cloe for the words of advice and support.
Hugs,
Angela
