My name is Sigrid, I’ve recently accepted myself as a woman born in the wrong body after struggling with my identity for over ten years. I’m very new to everything and am honestly not sure where to go from here. I joined hoping to make friends in the community who could maybe help and advise me in beginning my transition and the process itself. Or even just talk, as I have no one who can actually relate to discuss the feelings and everything that come with being trans. Anything would be so very appreciated, I hope to hear from someone soon!
Hello Sigrid
I am Tia, one of the "OLD" laydee's on the site. Welcome and relax. I, as well as many others' are a-like in regards to once lost/now finding more and more each day. Be patient and feel free to jump into chat, (Great ice breaker) and if you still can't find solice and friends, I'll listen to you. Huggz Tia
Hello everyone,
I am adarsini from india.I am a member of CDH.when I start with cdh I understand that I am not a cd..more than a cd I found that I am a transexual..Now I identify myself as a transexual(as a transwoman)..
I am planning to come out soon..speaking to my mom about this is a very tedeous task...friends do anyone have an idea , how to comeout to my parents...?
Thanks
Reagards
Adarsini (ada)...
Welcome to TGH Sigrid. You're among friends here and really do like helping each other out with the thoughts, challenges and the joys of being transgender.
Hugs, Ambassador Cloe
Hi Ada,
My name is Dasia. I'm a Transwoman from America. Welcome to TGH and congratulations on your gender self-discovery! Coming out is very personal and depends on the folx involved. You'll want to assess your safety, overall well being, and develop a safe place with safe folx if your mother doesn’t accept you. I’m curious how old you are, sweetie. I’ve known a couple of trans women from India, who are adults, through Facebook. I’ve also researched the challenges Indian Transgender folx face online. Do you feel you must come out before adulthood or can you wait?
Ada,
I looked into India Transgender resources and found something. It’s American based, but services all South Asian LGBTQ Folx worldwide. They know your heritage, are 100% confidential, and are trained to help you talk about coming out and other concerns. Their website is: www.deqh.org
Of course you can chat with us here, too, but we are not trained and may not know your heritage enough to keep you safe. Many appreciate chatting with other Trans, Non-binary, and Gender Non-Conforming folx from around the world. Again, best wishes to creating a positive coming out plan and congratulations on Transgender being the legal third gender in India since 2014! Yay!!
Best,
Dasia
Hi Ada,
My name is Dasia. I’m a Transwoman from America. Welcome to TGH and congratulations on your gender self-discovery! Coming out is very personal and depends on the folx involved. You’ll want to assess your safety, overall well being, and develop a safe place with safe folx if your mother doesn’t accept you. I’m curious how old you are, sweetie. I’ve known a couple of trans women from India, who are adults, through Facebook. I’ve also researched the challenges Indian Transgender folx face online. Do you feel you must come out before adulthood or can you wait?
Hi dasia
Happy to hear from you. I am 22. I feel that I should comeout as soon as possible. First I thought faking my self as a complete male in the society will make my dysphoria go away,so for the last couple of years I was faking myself plying my fake gender role. But that is not making me happy and comfortable...its frustrating...
Now for the last 4 years I was researching on GID and related things..and I understood dysphoria is permanent and thats what I love...that was my first realisation....
Regards
Ada
Ada,
Thanks for giving me more information. Being an adult you have been able to make a career for yourself and make your own home. You'd be in no danger of being kicked out if your parents didn't agree with your coming out. I've heard 9 out of 10 Trans folx are made homeless by their families in India. I'm glad for you about the Rights of Transgender Persons Bill of 2014. Have you researched how your life might be after you come out? I'm concerned about your welfare there. Did you contact that other support group I sent you? About coming out...I think slow and easy is probably best. I tried it that way, my family didn't accept me. So I tried to educate them for 20 years and, well, that didn't work either. Ultimately I designed a naming ceremony, as a Christian service, and invited them and friends to it. My dad became borderline violent. He liked me better as a son. Thing is, my gender isn't for him to decry/decide. I disowned my dad that day to be rid of his transphobia. It may sound sad, but I really don't miss his or any other family or friend's hateful ways about my gender. If coming out makes you feel better, best of luck to you, but know that there's no requirement to do it.
Best,
Dasia
