Hi everyone i recently sort thearpy im seeing a therapist now she is the only one who knows my real self and encourages me to embrace myself i now know I identify as female. I know its a long journey im just tired of repressing my feelings and trying to live a masculine life. Any advice how i can embrace my feminintity .
As a life long CD only my wife knew. I lost her to cancer in 1996 that left me alone with two daughters age 17 and age 13. So there I was, after a 19 year marriage with only my wife knowing suddenly a single father. The closet became my very best friend. Kept all my femme things hidden. Got a storage unit to store them in . Whenever the daughters were gone I would dress and be Elayne instead of Ted. It was a challenging time for sure. BUT YOU are your own best friend . !! Believe in yourself. After the girls went off to college and i was now on my own i was free to be me. Moved to another location and for many years lived a single life and dressed and dated when and where I could. But remember this to thine own self be true. . The secrete is hard to keep but you can do it . i have always said i was strong enough for TWO PEOPLE Ted and Elayne..
Thank you Elyane for your encourging words sorry for your lost must of been hard
There are likely many different ways to embrace your beautiful femininity...for me, once I was certain that's what I wanted to do. I made a wish list (go to a bar and be correctly gendered, take belly dancing lessons...I let my imagination run wild. Then I made a regret list: all the things, I felt sad that I missed in high school and college, ex: prom gown, cheerleading, sorority, etc. And little by little I worked my way through some of the lists in small ways. I will never go to prom as a woman, but I bought a pretty gown and danced around in it all night, to some of my favorite prom songs. Some of the things I flat out ignored (I did not become a cheerleader, LOL!) The whole exercise took months, but that time went by so quickly and it was an ecstatic and healing experience. I don't know if that helps you, but I hope so!
Thank you cj what a wonderful idea . Did you take pictures of your prom dress . I love the idea of a regret list and trying to relive it in your true self .
I have enough regrets, the last thing this girl needs to do is list and focus on them! Not so sure on this one, but different people think different thoughts❤️ I have found that there are many moments during the day that one can feel femme. Just a glance down at my smooth, tanned legs can take me out of the male moment and allows me to just enjoy the femme image of those legs in front of me. It can be a lonely place as all we want is for our female self to be acknowledged, recognized, loved. Good luck on your journey…
Haley😘
Thank you Haley im thinking maybe wearing a cute or sexy pair of panties under my male cholthes just knowing and feeling them may give me some embacing
Jennifer:
You found us! Very Good!
Seeking out a therapist is a very good 1st step. It can really help to begin to understand where things sit for you and how to plot a course forward. Also, know that physical transitioning isn't the end goal for every trans person. We are all different in our perspectives, needs, expectations, etc.
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