Welcome, Anna,
You may have to ditch people who won't try to accept you. I only had one family member who refused to, and I ditched him.
I don't blame you about the SRS, not everyone is a good candidate for that surgery. I chose not to have it, there are other things that I choose to spend my money on, like leaving my wife a nest egg, for one.
I chose to halt the hormones too. The results were sketchy, and the side effects didn't seem worth it.
We all need to stick together, with states trying to ban us from even existing, it's not getting any easier. Mine, Florida, is one of the worst, we actually have a fascist who is terrorizing students and parents and teachers in the Governor's mansion.
Best wishes