As i have read through the different posts and articles one thing i realized is that in addition to a shrinking pool of cis friends i have no trans friends. It would be amazing to have someone to talk to/shop with/ makeup , etc.
I'm kind of at a loss as how to make local trans friends in their 20s/30s preferably not a bar.
How have you gone about making trans friends?
How do you go about dating pre-op?
Are there real people that will find a 30s trans body attractive?
A local friend lamented the same thing.Β We noted that the 50 and 60 somethings had started to come out and were using social media liked FB, Instagram and Meetup to connect and meet.Β The teen and early 20 somethings seemed to be connecting too, but our perception was they did not have nearly the headwind of overall community acceptance.Β I can't say we had an answer, but our supposition was that building careers and relationships could be impacting the time much less need to connect.Β She did join our local peer support group and does join the 40 and above crowd for our outings.
In your case, Sacramento, does have an active community.Β I suggest you look through this site in particular support groups and nightlife.Β https://rivercitygems.org/
Hugs,
Ambassador Cloe
I've been using a tv/ts site to find other female girls to get together with and finally have had some luck meeting a few.Β Β In fact,Β one girl is coming over today and hopefully, she's what she said she was.Β I'll know in a few more hours and will post a follow up message as to how things work out.Β Ok, I need to finish getting dressed and ready for her.
Sorry about the delay in responding. Life just caught up with me lately. Did your meet go well ? was she what she said she was? How have you been lately ? I've made some progress. I came out to my family sorta , well my mom all the way. Dad .. not as much but hes accepting it.
I've been doing a lot of research tonight on peer / support group in my area but it's hard to tell what they are like so i think ill go to some over the next few weeks.
I'm thinking about using a tv/ts. I originally wanted friends only but i think im ready to date. I guess im just nervous because im not fully out yet, and i need to work on passing in public. I've also been thinking about who to date. Man or Woman would be fine. I'm used to women but not in a submissive role and i'm pretty sure at this point i've gotten over my fear of being labeled gay. I'm just nervous especially about dating a guy since i've never been with a man before. i guess i just don't want to be taken advantage of.
<p style="text-align: left;">I am a 58 y/o trans woman living 24/7, 365 and I have had extreme difficulty meeting other trans girls for friendship. I met a couple of girls on-line who I met in person that only ended up wanting sex, so I joined our local transgender support group attending 4 meeting before I lost interest. It was mostly very young girls, (teens and early twenties), who only wanted to discuss boyfriends and dating, and why their parents won't allow them to bring their boyfriend's home late at night. I quickly became tired of listening to their very immature points of view and lost interest in spending my Saturday mornings with them. I have met several transgender woman in my day to day activities and have found that transgender folks can be very withdrawn and researved, making them hard to get to know. I, on the other hand, am very outgoing and social refusing to allow my very difficult life experiences to get the upper hand and turn me into a bigger person.</p>
