Hello
i am new here and at the start of my journey. Reading one of the threads i signed up for transgender counseling. Waiting to get an appointment, possibly not anymore this month.
I have not decided of a name yet so i am still Stefan. I hope i can make friends here
I am Stephen and go by Stephanie and that may be an idea ๐๐ฟ
sound good, the simplest approach are the best. So i am Stefania.
Nice to meet you Stefania!
I hope you like it here and that you meet many new people! ๐
Stefania:
You found us! Very good!
Names are funny things and there are MANY different thought processes behind what we do. As is true for so many things, there isnโt one road to town. It also implies that there is no โrightโ way and noโwrongโ way.
As an example, Iโll share my thought process. Legally I am Donald. I have no interest in putting the effort into changing my documentation. For me, it just isnโt worth it. Anyway, thatโs a discussion for another time.
So, for most people, Donna would seem logical but for some reason that never appealed to me. On the other hand, I did want a name that started with โDโ. Hmmm. I thought about this for several weeks and finally inspiration struck. Iโve been a big motorsports fan since I was a child. My interest spans MANY different disciplines on ovals, permanent and temporary road circuits, dirt and pavement. If you name a touring series that runs in the US over the past 60 years, Iโve probably seen it somewhere.
What I remembered is that Mario Andrettiโs wife was Dee Ann. โWasโ in that she sadly passed away a few years ago. I took the space out as a way to discourage shortening it to โDeeโ, but that has not been entirely successful.
Anyway, it is entirely subjective and not unlike why we like a particular article of clothing or a color or a pattern. There is no โwhyโ, I think. It just โisโ.
Is there a local trans community, and if so, are you connected to it? It is very easy for us to isolated and separated from other trans people. That isnโt a good thing. So, I would encourage you see what you can find. Here in the US, many LGBT centers have taken to doing online support and social groups. This is one of the few positive results from the pandemic and is a great help for those who donโt live close to a metropolitan area or have scheduling or transportation issues.
You can search for other members in your area by clicking on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.
I also encourage you to complete your Profile page. It helps other members to understand your situation and will always be readily available if you need to update it.
Thanks for your kind words. I have contacted a LBGT group with Transgender women. The next get night out is on the 20th Jan and i informed them that i join.
So very excited to meet new friends
Great opportunity to do lots of listening...
Stefania Merry Christmas and let me know how the LGBTQ meeting goes๐๐๐ฟ๐