New Here, Questioning

Hello Ashley You have made a very good Start with Understanding your True Self.... By joining TGH..
This is a Safe Place to Be Your True Self... To ASK Questions... and make Wonderful Friends who Understand and are willing to Help... You are HERE WITH US... You are not ALONE...
You have the Women .. Who are Members of TGH... for Support..
On Your Wonderful Journey to find your True Self...
Hope to Talk to You soon...
Love Jessica 💕

Hi sweetie welcome to this super safe wonderful place full of beautiful people ❤️

Thank you. Support of any kind means a lot!

Hello Ashley    You are not alone in your feelings and confusion.  Just about every one of us has had the same problems.  We have seen Psych's  MD s PHD s trying to understand  and get a grip on what is going on.  I made my decision to transition  based on how I felt proceeding as a male as opposed to how  I felt as a female.    I felt happier as a female, felt more confident as a female. Felt more alive as a female.  I made the decision to transition based on those things that made me the happiest.

Unfortunately  after starting the transition process I went of the HRT  and had a very bad reaction to the hormones that we have to take to proceed forward  in the process.  You must face that fact that to transition is a long term life changing experience.  I tried and was not able to do it so I went back to having to live in the male role . It was devastating to me and has taken years to adjust to.

You may not have that problem but you must prepare yourself for the possibility of being successful and accepting the long term changes and life changing events  ( Like Breast Augmentation and Electrolysis ) to create the new you.   Unfortunately  I had to stop  early in the process and have accepted.  But on the same note you must be prepared to accept the things you need to do to be successful. not just NOW but as you get older. !!   over 50  or 60.   But there is only one person who can make the decision  YOU and Only YOU.   We can advise  we can reassure  we can give you a shoulder to cry on and a sounding board for your questions.   But it will come down to the basic question   ..  WHAT WILL MAKE YOU THE HAPPIEST ??     And no one can help you with that. !!

good luck  Reach out to me if you want to talk more

Elayne  ( Ted )  Edwards

Hello Ashley,

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A few Questions;

1) What is the youngest age you started having feelings?
2) Has anyone Suggested you are possibly trans or did you come to it yourself?
3) What do you want that can and can't be facilitated by transitioning?
4) How do you see yourself in ten years.
5) What will you potentially loss by transitioning and would it be worth it?

After answering those Questions

6) What do you feel and desire?

1. Hard to say. I remember really wanting to wear a dress when I was 5, and being confused and disappointed when I wasn't allowed to. I've certainly thought at various points in my life "I'd be better off as a woman".

2. I came to this conclusion myself, unless you are counting online resources as suggestions.

3. Again hard to say. One of the things that got me considering this was seeing people's pre and post transition photos. On the left there's always this dead eyed, scraggly looking dude, and on the right someone happy and beautiful and confident. I want my own after photo, I want to be beautiful, I want to be a real person and not the hollow human shaped thing that I feel like.

4. Sorry, but I really have no idea. As it stands, if I'm lucky, I will be in the same prison I've built for myself, just 10 years older and dealing with whatever cataclysms come up. I don't like to think about being any unlucky outcomes.

5. It hurts to take inventory of the people around me and understand that if I ever pulled the trigger on this, or if they even knew I thought about it that, some of them would no longer respect me, if not outright hate me. Then again, those people are at best bores with small minds, imaginations, and hearts or just plain fascists and in either case I should not need or even want their approval.

I'm afraid I could lose my job. I have no specific reason to believe I would, but it happens. I'm afraid of discrimination and bigotry in general.

HRT sounds very appealing, but I understand that it isn't risk free and that I might not like everything it does. While I certainly do want a softer, more feminine physique, I am concerned about losing muscle. I'm probably freaking myself out over nothing there though. I'm concerned about the potential loss of sexual function, but I'm also 28 and have never been so much as kissed, so I guess there isn't anything to worry about there either.

6. I spend a lot of time just sort relitigating all of this with myself, and the answer always comes out to "Yes, I do want this". If nothing else I need to try and experiment, because the genie isn't going back into the bottle. I tried that already.