New to all this.

Claire,

I don't know how old you are but I was 67 before I fully came to grips with who I am. Just so you know, I believe I'm what some American Indians called two-spirited. I'd rather think of myself as only one spirit but split in the middle with its identification. I have equal parts male and female and now my female part wants to finish off what's left of my body's physical life on this earth.

Welcome Claire. It’s important you understand there is no right time to learn about who you are. Some of us knew something was different at an early age, around puberty, some figured it out in their 60’s or later. What’s important now is to take your time, read til you fall asleep nicely, and ask a zillion questions. You’ll get a zillion answers. You can also join the sister site to this one, crossdresser heaven.  Welcome to your new home.

Thanks I do have a zillion questions lol I first felt something was different around puberty but just kind of ignored it because my dad was not someone I could talk to about any of this... it would always be there but would sometimes be manageable and other times (like lately) it's almost unbearable I came out to my now ex wife after being together for almost 10 years and well she was not supportive and worse would say it wasn't genuine because I didn't have any feminine characteristics or interests caused alot of doubt about myself that Internal struggle

I'm 36 lol though my body definitely did not form into a good feminine frame not to mention I have kids so I'm worrying about what it'll do to them as well...

Yeah, just go slow, don’t waste a lot of time trying to put a name to it, but rather, discover what you like, what makes you happy, what styles and Color’s and fabrics make you happy.  You are entering a world of discovery so accept it openly. The more you learn to accept who you are deep inside, the more you will find peace and happiness.

Thank you you have been very helpful my story's been a wild ride and I'm still sorting alot out

Claire

welcome darling. timing is irrelevant dear  ..the bigger thing is you're exploring or have decided n your happiness.  we are all here to love m support each other.

there is no stupid question..believe me I've asked plenty n many were already covered..but these wonderful sisters embraced me like one of theirs n patiently offer ideas n suggestions.  welcome home

I'd also suggest a good gender therapist n maybe when you feel up to it, a support group like your local pride chapter or something

welcome

hugs

missy jo