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Struggling with my identity trying to learn about myself

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(@terria67)
Honorable Member     United States of America, California
Joined: 7 years ago

Hello Harmony,

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(@Anonymous 25807)
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Joined: 2 years ago

Ok Harmony, first things first lots of familiar stuff there. Also use paragraphs. The wall o text thing is hard to read. I did it too. You just want to say it all at once. We get it.

We've been there.

One of the problems is the doubt. Even when I finally accepted myself as trans it took a while to accept I'm a woman. When I finally did I found a peace. Even now there's doubt.

Don't doubt yourself. You are a woman. I finally accepted that about myself and now I find it impossible to see myself as male.

Just be you. Ignore the clothes thing by the way. Women can wear anything.

I used to say to myself. I wish I was a woman.

But one day I realised. I am a woman. Not physically, not biologically like the bigots like to point out smugly.

I'm just an ordinary woman like you.

Born with a P, tragically.

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(@natalieg)
Trusted Member     United States of America, Florida
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Harmony! I Like your name. I often sing β€œharmony” parts in our all girl band.
I have a friend who just retired as a parole officer. She had switched to that from being a prison guard. She said it was safer, less stressful. She still had to pack a pistol, but never used it.

Just something to consider, as you wind your way through your transition.
Peace

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(@lauren114)
Eminent Member     Belize, Belize
Joined: 1 year ago

Hi Harmony,

Welcome! Like you, I am new to TGH and everything you say is so relatable for me. I hope you find at least some of the answers you are looking for here.

Lauren

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(@polly123)
    United States of America, New York, new york
Joined: 1 year ago

Hi, Harmony.

Don't worry, these feelings are normal. Basically every person who wants to change sex has had the same idea as you before. I can still recall the feeling of entanglement and confusion, as if there were two people in the body arguing constantly. One of them is conservative and wants to maintain the status quo; And the other one wants to pursue what he really wants. Both men have good points to say, but who should we listen to? It depends on what you really want in your heart. If you want a quiet, stable life, then you go on living your life. If you want to find who you really are, then take that step.
I grew up wanting to be a woman. Before, I also lived in self-doubt every day, but once I decided to do one thing, then everything became easier. Life is only a few short decades, if we don't do the things we really want to do, we will certainly regret it. I am a real transgender woman now, and although it was difficult at first, I am happy now. I met my boyfriend on a transgender dating app, so now I have a respectful and loving partner. Come on, my friend, I believe you will soon get out of the confusion.

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(@terria67)
Honorable Member     United States of America, California
Joined: 7 years ago

Hello Harmony,

Welcome to our TransGender Heaven (TGH) site: A Transgender Support Site. We are a wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.

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Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.

Terri Anne, Ambassador

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