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 Hal
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(@hal907000)
Active Member     United States of America, Oregon
Joined: 1 year ago

I joined this site earlier this year, before I finally got everything situated to get approved to go on testosterone. I had just ran away from my family across the country and moved somewhere new with my partner that gave us an easier place to be ourselves and for me to start hormones. It also gave us a place to have our pronouns and chosen names respected (although sadly there are still people everywhere who do not show this respect, but it’s miles better than where I was before, rural West Virginia).

I didn’t get to know too many people when I first got on here, part of it was trying to navigate things, part of it being too busy, the other was I was still getting to know my real self unapologetically and not behind closed doors. Now I feel I have even more experience being my true self and understanding who I am. 

That being said, I’m looking to talk to anyone of any identity or background. We don’t have to commit to staying friends (though it is nice to feel less alone in the trans community), I’d be happy just getting to chat more with some of you about ourselves and our experiences. 
But I intend to start checking this regularly, either way, so feel free to message whenever. 

Some basic things to know about me are: my name is Hal, I’m transmasc (big likelihood I’m  intersex, too), I am 24 (25 in June), bisexual, I go by He/Him and sometimes it/its, but as I come into my true body and self more, I have dabbled in some crossdressing/role playing as female/feminine in the way that cis queer men do. It’s been very euphoric to let the worry of people’s toxic masculinity go and for people to see it as more of drag than telling me I am a woman for it.
Part of why I mention this is having male friends is great and something I need to regain, but also I wish to not be the “gay best friend” in secret anymore. Meaning, growing up knowing I was a man already and subconsciously trying to hide my male attraction and feminine interests; instead I want to be able to share and express and talk about feminine interests/culture with friends that are women. To learn more about womanhood as I never really experienced much of it. And when I did, I knew in my head I liked these certain things as a gay boy, but my family and friends did not see that as the truth.
Yet, sometimes when I did try to express feminine interests in front of them without them forcing me to, they found it to be weird and wrong as they were so used to me being masculine and acting “like a boy” my whole life. 

Normally I would apologize for being verbose but I think it’s nice to share experiences here. As for interests about myself, I enjoy reading, cleaning, cooking, baking, all the different types of psychology, playing some older video games, really love watching movies and keeping a list of what I’ve seen, I collect a lot of physical media or antique items, I love all kinds of music but have a soft spot for metal and dance pop,  but I also love cute things; pink stuff, hello kitty, y2k bimbo clothing and style, cute stuffies, etc. 

Some favorite artists/bands would be: Mortician, Alice In Chains, Mariah Carey, Black Sabbath, Type O Negative, Beyoncé, Christina Aguilera, etc. I have thousands of songs saved so I’ll leave it at these few and maybe we can chat about our other music interests. 

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(@jasmin1661)
Estimable Member     United States of America, California, Needles
Joined: 6 years ago

Hal,

Thanks for sharing. Your really opening my eyes into the transmasculine side of our community.  I do look forward to reading more of your posts. Hopefully others like you will also open up about their experiences.

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 Hal
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(@hal907000)
Joined: 1 year ago

Active Member     United States of America, Oregon
Posts: 6

@jasmin1661 

I’m glad to hear that! I was hoping I wasn’t wasting my breath sharing my experiences as I wasn’t sure if it was insightful or interesting. Thanks for your comment and honestly feel free to ask any transmasculine-related questions you may have, I like to be informative from what I can draw from my own experience or recollections of other’s 

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(@terria67)
Honorable Member     United States of America, California
Joined: 6 years ago

Hello Hal,

Welcome back?

I'll give you the usual intro anyway.......

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You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.

My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.

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(@mustangtoni)
Estimable Member     United States of America, Florida, Tampa
Joined: 1 year ago

Hey Hal. Welcome it’s nice to have you here!

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 Hal
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(@hal907000)
Joined: 1 year ago

Active Member     United States of America, Oregon
Posts: 6

@mustangtoni
Hello there, and thanks 😇 nice to meet you

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(@ellilynn)
Trusted Member     United States of America, Indiana, Bloomington
Joined: 1 year ago

Hello, Hal, and welcome.  Don't feel like you're the only one to lurk for a while before posting anything.  I'm guilty of the same.

I believe you are the first person I've ever talked to on the other side of the fence from me, trans-masc to my trans-femme, so I haven't a clue about any of the issues you may face, so please do continue to share anything you're comfortable with because I love learning about new people, things and ideas.  I can't comment on the insightful part in your one reply above, but it's all interesting to me, and maybe something you write might lead me to a new insight about myself.

 

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 Hal
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(@hal907000)
Joined: 1 year ago

Active Member     United States of America, Oregon
Posts: 6

@ellilynn 

 

Hi, Elli, thank you for your comment 😃

Are there perhaps any experiences you face as a trans-femme person that you would be curious as to how it parallels for a transmasc person? I’ve talked to a lot of trans-femme people, more so than people who are also transmasc (including my partner & best friend), so I’ve also seen a lot of their experiences in real life partnered with my version of that positive or negative experience that comes with being openly trans. 

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(@ellilynn)
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Trusted Member     United States of America, Indiana, Bloomington
Posts: 78

@hal907000 Hi Hal.  Yes, I'm sure in the future there will be many questions I'm curious about from an intellectual standpoint or that may have parallels to experiences I've faced.  Can't think of anything at the moment, but when I do, I won't hesitate to ask.  I will warn you I tend to be brutally honest, which I've learned upsets some folks, but I learned in therapy the more secrets you keep the crazier you'll be, and I refuse to accept responsibility for other people's reactions to what I say.  However, it's not part of my nature to ever deliberately cause hurt or discomfort, but should I do so out of ignorance, please let me know.  So, feel free to ask me anything because I have no problem with any question intended to gain knowledge, and some of the more difficult or personal questions just cause me to be more open and honest with myself, so I learn something and this is a good thing.

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