@charlenev That sounds encouraging. When you think about it, from her perspective this would be a big change & it takes time to process things like this. A glacier pace is probably a good thing as it gives her time to acclimatise. As the old saying goes "slowly slowly catchy monkey" It sounds like she is dealing with it far better than many I have heard of & I wish you both many happy years together.
Sasha
@sashabennett thank you for your encouragement. Yes, my wife is surprising me with her acceptance and dare I say support.
I will continue to take it glacier slow as this approach seems to be working well for her. This is not simply my journey, it is our journey so if we are to journey together I will move forward at her pace.
Blessings,
Charlene
@charlenev Truly awesome. I finally came out to my wife early last December. I am still married, so there is that. My glacier is not only moving slowly, it advances and recedes. Me staying patient and extending understanding is taxing and vexing at best. There are loads of mixed signals, but all in all there is progress. I thought I was walking a razor's edge keeping it covert. It's an even keener edge trying to keep it visible without rubbing her nose in it like a bad puppy. And lots of mixed signals. She absolutely does not want to see me in a dress, but then when she orders online and doesn't like, she offers me a look before sending them back. And two women in the house ... is an issue with ... um intimacy. Not sure I should be saying that.
@lindseyd
Congratulations girl! I am truly happy for you being able to come out to your wife.
Razor's edge, an apt way of describing our journey as married trans women. Truly this edge is very difficult to navigate, but it is part of being that which is impossible to escape, being trans and In my case at least strongly and incessantly identifying as a woman at my core.
But honestly I wouldn't have it any other way. I lothe not being able to be full time. I guess I could be, but for me the cost is far too great. Yet I love the potential and possibility of perhaps someday being Charlene far more than I am him; of being my wife's bff as well as her husband. And with that as a possibility as best I can I move glacier slow, but I move forward.
Hugs,
Charlene
Sober-minded and circumspect thinking, that is what I love about what I have seen here. Perhaps, I should spend more time here. I don't feel like the hen asking a fox what it likes for dinner here. I don't have it in me to run the full 26 miles and change, but maybe I can get 18 or 20.
You're getting a wig. I want breast forms. Now, how does an ostrich learn to fly?
Charlene, wonderful, wonderful!! So happy for you. It is heartwarming and I get such a rush in my soul and misty-eyed when I see a sister having good fortune. You are so beautiful, it seems fitting for you to be able to live more and more as Charlene.
love,
Dani
Thank you Dani. Progress has slowed a bit at this time. I am finding that if I want to progress more publicly as a trans woman there are certain thought patterns I must let go of and changes in everyday lifestyle that can't be avoided.
You sort of know they're coming but actually "enterimg in" is challenging. I am still a woman at heart & soul. It's in me to be so and when I sense the timing is right will be more so outwardly.
Hugs,
Charrie
