Hi Faith,
Like you I live in a part time femme world. Female at home, male at work. I have come out to my ex and my grown children (I am much older than you). Just started HRT in the last four months. Nervous about going out. I found it interesting that your therapist said almost the same thing as mine word for word.l "People are too busy with their own lives to notice anything." She keeps encouraging me to go out more fully dressed and made up. I'm beginning to think there is something to what they are both saying. I just have to make the leap of faith (pardon the pun). Good on you for recognizing and becoming who you are.
Jennifer