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(@yoopergurl)
Active Member     United States of America, Michigan, Houghton
Joined: 4 years ago

Hi Christy,

My wife is very adamant that she married a man.  I am nearing a crossroads in my life where the life I currently have could be altered due to many other reasons aside from my transgender self.

My wife doesn't want to talk to me about my gender.  She doesn't want to educate herself either.   I have been on this journey since I was a kid and I was mostly forced into a male life by fear of doing the wrong thing.   But, after some 40 years on this planet I have come to realize that I am NOT wrong.   Neither are you.  I hope the best for you.

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(@flatlander48)
Noble Member     United States of America, California, Cathedral City
Joined: 5 years ago

I think the thing for all of us to understand is that there are MANY ways our partners can react to our coming out. I feel very fortunate that my wife has not had any significant reaction to how our lives have progressed over the last 7 years. On the other hand, it saddens me to hear about the difficulties that others have had. From what I can tell, there seems to be no real way to predict the outcomes. All you can do is present your truth as clearly as you can, hope for the best but plan for the worst…

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(@rosi)
Active Member     United States of America, Maine
Joined: 4 years ago

Hi Christy   ten years ago I couldn't go on any longer and sat down and just told my wife I was a cross dresser .  She never had a clue and she was mad at me because I kept it from her for at that time thirty years . After some time and the dust settled we talked and she wanted to see what I looked like and she was helpful . I started being me every night after getting home from work and my wife could see the stress just go away I was at piece .  About five years ago I told her I was transgender she was alright with that but doesn't want me to change any thing with my body . I have got both ears pierced  and been going for treatment to remove my facial hair now going for two years my stomach and chest is next .  When I go to any thing to do with having fun with  being transgender like conferences  my wife likes to go we have fun and she likes all the other girls . I could never dance dressed as a man . I love dancing now and my wife likes that .  Today when I make my slow changes I always talk to my wife first its like buying a boat  in time . Go slow it takes time

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