I think my wife knows

Hi Beth

I think all the advice given is worthy. But only you know the personalities involved in this dilemma, the complexities, the impact of possible outcomes, how you and the family would feel in the event of acceptance or break up, etc. Advice can be helpful, but needs to be applicable for you. At the end of the day it's something you need to feel confident about doing and are prepared for the potential outcomes.

Love Jas