We all need someone to stand by us during our journey, to laugh with us and hold our hand as we navigate the ups and downs of our transition.
I was blessed to have a very good friend who was there throughout. She showed love and compassion from the first time I came out, spent time with me in the hospital during my SRS and came over at midnight to comfort me after one of my boyfriends found out about my transition before I could tell him (that's a long story for another time).
I am deeply grateful to know her, and to have her as part of my life.
Who has stood by you during your transition?
What did they do to make your journey easier and smoother?
My parents have been my most steadfast support here in the early stages.Β But at 80+ won't be able to assist with physical support should it be needed.Β I do have some friends who stay consistent, but time and distance are issues.
My own insecurities pushed me into longer distance connections as I tried to avoid accidental discovery by one of my employees who are in the LGBTQ community of this relatively small town.Β Now that I am full time I find myself scrambling to build a close support network.Β Β All things with time, but it sure does add to the angst of continued dysphoria.
What a blessing to have your family support you!
I was also blessed thus, my dad and his girlfriend took care of me after FFS, and my mom and the close friend I mentioned above took care of me during SRS. Truly blessed.
My father is very understanding but my mother isnβt... go figure. I also have my sister whoβs very accepting and my girlfriend. I had no intention of dating again until I was through this transition. But she and I met and sheβs just amazing. I came out to her a couple months into the relationship and expected that to be the end of things. But she was so gracious and supportive. She even looked up a number for a local transgender issues therapist for me!
Vanessa this place has given me a case of the bolds and with the continued support of you ladies and my family Maria is going to new heights of self actualization and self appreciation. The future is uncertain and the end is always near a rogue once said so I have on my lace panties cause I know the work coming and am ready oh so ready for it to begin. That said my "uncles" have stated their shock but also their love. My uncles partner who is a gorgeous man , and I don;t like men that way, said I was lovely and I nearly wept. Our dear friend in Eugene I told also as she is very active in the LGBTQ community and she said she would help with therapists and logistics of my transition. In all so far damn lucky by some of the words read here. So in that thought If I caan be there for one of you ladies in the process. Dear god let me know! love to you beautiful women
MariaBella Gomez-Freire
Wow, what an angel! I'm glad she's in your life!
I'm actually a bit concerned they will have their own physical problems at the same time. They've both slowed considerably as of late and dad is starting to show other issues.Β I can see having toΒ arrange any surgeries around siblings calendars.Β Geez, why didn't I do this a long time ago?
My spouse is my family Doctor and also my clinical psychiatrist she did for me what no other person alive has done. She showed me how I was coming out to her before. That there is nobody else who has supported my choices and decisions based on sexuality as she had. She treated me with positive reinforcement at the LGBT clinic where she works and treats us, and she has never sacrificed, jeapordized or compromised our life long commitment to each other.
