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Who has supported you through your transition?

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(@jamiealso)
Active Member     United States of America, Kansas, Fowler
Joined: 6 years ago

This website has been fantastic for helping me and also my therapist and counselor who keeps me knowing I am normal to be a woman

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(@robbenwendy)
Eminent Member     United States of America, New York, Bronx
Joined: 6 years ago

My mother and brother can just about reach a stage of acceptance,but my mother is in a nursing home. I have had to reach out to those in the community, the twelve step programs are very non biased, and so is some of the activity with my meeting hoouse where i attend as a Quaker. I think it is important to keep the communication open, that TG woman are in constant need of voices who can offer support.

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(@skyler1090)
Eminent Member     United States of America, Illinois, Chicago
Joined: 6 years ago

I haven’t started my transition yet but plan to get recommendations for a endocrinologist soon; as in next Thursday soon. I want so badly to begin HRT. For now though, I’ve been undergoing hair removal treatments and therapy for the past month and a half or two. After today I can definitely tell you who doesn’t support me. Everyone but my fiancé; and she doesn’t realize how far “crossdressing” goes for me. I’ve heard nothing but negative comments about the trans community from my family all day. Poking fun, the derogatory words and names. My fiancé had asked me to at least “act” like their comments don’t bother me. Can’t tell you how hard that is.

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(@cloe-anne-webb)
Honorable Member     United States of America, Virginia, Fairfax
Joined: 6 years ago

This breaks my heart Skylar.  Of course it bothers you and on a family scale it has to be so hard.  Your fiancé seems to be the one you need most and I hope you too can find your way through this together.  Your journey will demand a lot of your time and energy and we are here to help as we can.  One thing I haven't seen mentioned is a local peer support group.  This would be an invaluable resource as you move forward.  It is something you should seek out as you will need all the support you can get.  A therpist should be able to help you locate resources too.

Hugs, Cloe

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(@skyler1090)
Eminent Member     United States of America, Illinois, Chicago
Joined: 6 years ago

Cloe, I grew up in a SUPER conservative home. Gay is a sin and god doesn’t make mistakes. Your right! God doesn’t make mistakes. He/she made us all unique. Was it loving? Absolutely. Constructive for my views on life? No. I’m the black sheep. I never fit in even though I desperately tried to. But I will however hopefully have some kind of support other than my fiancé soon. I’ve decided that my first biggest step, other than admitting to myself and my fiancé, is telling my best friend of 20+ years. He still views me as a 100% normal guy. Little does he know, I’ve had a secret for years. So Tuesday should be fun. I’m hoping my therapist can help find a local support group. My biggest fear right now is admitting to anyone else. My fiancé still doesn’t know the full extent of it. Mainly because she had said certain things that question whether I want to tell her any more right now.  so glad I have this community. You ladies are amazing!

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I'm very lucky in that my family is very supportive, which is odd because they are very conservative and very Christian. But both my parents have assured me that even though they don't agree with me making a transition, they don't think it's the right thing, and they hope I don't decide to do it, if I do, they will support me the whole way and they will never stop loving me. That's more than I could have hoped for, so I'm very happy that my family is willing to at least respect my feelings and choices. My parents are really the only one's that know the extent of it, but I have two brothers. My older brother kind of knows, but honestly doesn't really care, while my younger brother is only ten years old (quite a bit younger than I) and doesn't have a clue. He just thinks I'm a tomboy and that's that (I would be female to male, FYI). It's hard to even bring it up to him so I haven't tried yet and will probably only explain it to him when either he is old enough to understand, or when I actually take steps towards transitioning. Currently I've only scratched the surface with my counselor and am still in the stages of trying to figure out what I'm even going through emotionally/mentally before even considering trying to understand the physical aspects of it. However, as far as friends go, I have only vaguely suggested that there might even be a hint of gender dysphoria in me to most of them. None of them really even know, and honestly, I'm afraid to tell any of them.

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(@karenmichaels)
Active Member     United States of America, Texas, Fort Worth
Joined: 6 years ago

 

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(@karenmichaels)
Active Member     United States of America, Texas, Fort Worth
Joined: 6 years ago

Cloe, I grew up in a SUPER conservative home. Gay is a sin and god doesn’t make mistakes. Your right! God doesn’t make mistakes. quote]

Absolutely, God doesn't make mistakes. And he hears our cries for his help. He really hammered this home for me just yesterday.

As I was holding my brand new scripts for my hormones I remembered all of those nights lying in bed, begging Him to let me wake up girl or take it away. I started to cry. I realized that everytime I prayed, he was telling me "You already ARE a girl. And one day I'll give you the opportunity and means to look and live as the girl you are".

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