I thought the same about my family.Β What I've since learned is that the ones who truly learn to love others vs loving a legal system are the ones that stay with you.
At first my parents couldn't figure out why I wanted to be a woman. I was into everything any girl would be into growing up and not into any boy things at all I guess I was the opposite of a tomboy. Then after while my parents accepted it and supported me through everything. It was hard at first but then as the years passed the difficultly of having support went away. I would say my parents did support me the most and I didn't really have any friends growing up anyway and have gained a lot of good female friends. I don't tell anyone that I'm transgender and everyone assumes I'm female so I just let that go. I'm female on every document so that is no big deal. I feel that I am better received as a woman than I ever was as a man. I don't think I ever really needed any support outside of my family.
My wife of 25 years had always been very supportive of my crossdressing (she knew when we met) but she did not want me to go on HRT, which i always understood. Since our divorce (we are still very good friends) 5 years ago, I did some "soul searching", i sought professional advices and came to the conclusion that i wanted more than just wear lingerie. In the process, i also met a man (i discovered an other side of myself, suspected i had) who has been my partner the past 2 years. He has been very supportive in helping me going from crossdresser to TG. He encouraged me to go out all dressed up (so far i only agreed to go to LGBT places or with close friends). Supports me all the way in my desire to take HRT. At firdt i was thrilled, then, doing too much thinking, i started to ask myself: will he still love me with breasts? with a more feminine voice? with may be mood swings???????????? after several long discussions, he convinced me that he wanted me to transition as much as i want to. Just to say that having someone is important during those moments of our lives.
ps forgive me if i made some spelling mistakes, but english is not my native language.
I will probably not have anyone but my counselor for my transition am married but don't think for long as soon as my counselor talks to her and I come out to her probably over she's more than likely gonna be that way just give up a 30 year marriage cause I want to feel normal for myself....
My answer is perplexing Vanessa. Looking back I have came to the conclusion that the aggressive way I came out, and closing all the proverbial doors my family would have used to ridicule me. Everyone else close to me treats me the same with of course some comical sarcasm I begin with allowing them my outlook and attitude of it all.Β My life has changed very little due to he analog way I chose to live my life long ago as a gifted child, secluded, different, and unapologetic due to being born differently.
You girls are always hereΒ and since I always look forward to your company and kind words,Β Answering your question should cause most of you to smile because the answer lies within all of you and your unusually large hearts. Writing this has cause me to tear up as I have just realized all I have just wrote.Β You are truly angels of heaven an you all rock.Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Because of all of you?Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β "IΒ look at life each day as a sunshiny day."
Huggz Tia
My daughter has been my most erstwhile supporter. To the extent she won't be friends with anyone who doesn't support the fact I'm transgender. Furthermore, she isn't shy to say she has a transgender "dad".Β I use the term in quotes because she also calls me mom sometimes.Β It's ironic, but I'm probably more out of the closet from telling her, than me telling anyone else.Β Still, I can't tell her to stop telling people, because I find it touching how she's not only unashamed at having a transgender parent, but filled with pride.