Anyone thought about our burials?

Missy, actually, I have thought about it a few times. I guess if I pre-planned my funeral I could stipulate as much of the details as possible. I'd like to be buried as the person I am when I pass. Would others take issue with it; probably, but would I care at that point. To a certain degree the funeral is more about those still around remembering me in a way that makes them feel good. Because I sure won't be there to mingle with them. Heck, I've even thought that I should be dressed leaving this world, the same way I was dressed when I got here. Now; that would be something. Good or bad, I will leave to the reader.... Michelle

Michelle,

thank you. actually  I think your idea of bury the person I became makes more sense than me trying to transition, n then at death, ask the undertaker to hide it all. so daunting.

thank you for your thoughts dear.

Oooooh Morbid thoughts indeed Missy.  I say that life is too short to care about what happens when you are dead so I say live large now and don't worry.   I'm on the functioning autism scale so while my wife forbids me to talk at a funeral, I get to gush here.  My wife and I have both planned on recycling any useable parts and the rest being cremated and having the ashes spread on our farm and part of mine also get dropped somewhere in Las Vegas (my favorite city).  So, there's nothing to see or plant.  I live openly and authentically so most people who know me know what I look like.  With that in mind I have set up plans to have pics of me throughout my life.  I’ve had 3 NDE’s and after the last one I got serious about planning the rest of my life.  Since that time I have several large lavish fun parties each year and invite all the people that I think might actually visit me at the funeral home if I actually croaked.  I give these parties names like My Unbirthday, Solstice, New Years in July etc.)  I have a grand time and I think that the participants do too but I never tell them that these parties are my actual funeral.  It would weird a lot of people but at my real actual funeral I’ve left instructions that this be announced.  Also I want everyone to be told that I was thrilled to be among friends and family and enjoyed their company when I was alive.  My family all knows about this plan and they are sworn to secrecy until I go under the rainbow at which time they are to announce it with joy.  My funeral will be just like the parties with fresh Miller Lite tap beer, wine, pizza, and the best bakery desserts ever, with popular dance hits from our jukebox (60’s to 90’s) playing in the background.  No dullness is allowed at my funeral and it’s all been set up ahead of time.  My life has never been dull and my funeral shouldn’t be either.  Party on! (with no insult intended to those who prefer a more sombre farewell).  Marg

Both myself and my wife will be cremated and our ashes will be thrown in our own private lake behind our home.  Who I am when I go is of no concern to me, I’ll be dead. As for useful parts, ask yourself, what part of me would be worth anything?  I was at Woodstock in ‘ 69. Do you really think anything would be useful when I go? Think tie dyed.

Jill

giggles, but it still sounds like a plan. I'm planning on being buried next to my wife, n probably not changing the stone for her sake. I doubt I have much recyclable parts either

hugs

marg

you'd be surprised how often I've heard folks say, they have in the will..party, no crying, party like we woukd have had I been there, smile with good stories n memories of laughter we shared. I like that idea..but I don't think anyone will come to mine. oh well, more reason to have pre-planned n instructions to funeral director..maybe I wint pay for viewing services, why bother? shrugs.its ok, really.

I like your party idea dear. thanks. be well.

My funeral is already paid for and planned. My wife will be buried beside me in a country cemetery in the middle of "red neck" Texas. Our head stone will have my new name Gabriella Abigail nee Aaron Lee Everett and my wife's full name.