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Are you "Transgender" or "Woman" (or "Man")?

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Estimable Member     United States of America, Wisconsin, Madison
Joined: 2 years ago

I'm late to the party too and I noticed that this question is very old but in support of general knowledge sharing I will add my two cents.  I usually introduce myself this way.  "Hi, I'm Marg Produe" and depending on the group that I'm with, I may add "and I'm an intersex person."  Then if people want more info, I will launch into my simple 1 minute intersex lesson (about 2 percent of the population is intersex, most intersex people never know that they are intersex unless there is a problem,  intersex people differ internally or externally from what most people understand as a general definition of a man or a woman, and finally, intersex people are as common as redheads).  So, there you have it.  My intro along with a mini lesson.  Now if this generates more questions or discussions  then I will be glad to educate the masses (I actually do give presentations both locally and nationally on what it's like to be an intersex person).  Since this question seems to want more definition, I'm both male and female at about a ratio of 55% and 45%.  I'm usually seen as androgynous, but do wear women's clothes since they fit me the best.  You can read my profile if you want more particulars.  I'm out and open.  I'm similar to a MTF trans person but I don't take any drugs (my body manufactures them for me).  For those that want to get a really technical definition of me, then I tell them that I'm a DES Feminized Male but that's more than a 1 minute explanation.  Incidentally I have not changed all of my documents and have no problem with keeping my legacy (dead) name since I have a large body of work that I produced before I was  Marg.  That was me then and this is me now.  I have resigned myself to never being able to go through TSA without some delay since the machines just don't get my body.  I'd like to someday be able to give a presentation to TSA workers (and emergency service and medical workers) and maybe enlighten more people.   I hope this info is helpful.  Marg

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    United States of America, New York, new york
Joined: 8 months ago

I would choose to tell people about my transgender identity, and I don’t feel like there’s anything to hide about it. Although the first few decades of my life were painful and confusing, it was the life I really lived. It is these painful days that make up my life, and because they make me feel how good my life is now. That period of time is like reminding me every moment to cherish the present. Of course, I also think that memory is precious. It’s like I’ve lived two lives my whole life two different lives, and it’s kind of amazing.

I think my current attitude and personality are related to my previous life. I wouldn’t be who I am if it wasn’t for who I was. Now I feel that everything is not as important as my happiness. I can do whatever I want. If people like me, then we can be friends, if they can’t accept me for who I am, then we can be strangers, no big deal.When I met my boyfriend, I made it clear that I was a transgender woman. If you don't like trans women, then we don't have to waste our time. He said he liked my confidence and openness. We met on a transgender dating app, and when we met, we established our relationship. We have been together for almost a year now and we are still very happy.

I always believe that the person who loves you loves you no matter what you are.

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Eminent Member     United States of America, North Carolina, CHAPEL HILL
Joined: 4 years ago

Except for the part about having a boyfriend, I could have written every word you wrote; I feel exactly the same about my former and current lives.

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Trusted Member     United States of America, New York, Kingston
Joined: 3 years ago

Two different lives.  Being who you are because of who you were.  Lovely poetry. And I agree.  Thank you.

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New Member     United States of America, Texas, Austin
Joined: 3 months ago

I wish I knew because I'm not sure. Born male but I've been in touch with my inner woman as long as I can remember. Now that I started HRT 16 months ago I've begun the transition to transgender but I'm not sure how far I will get since hormones can only go so far and it will likely take surgery to get the breasts that I really want. But, that would make it harder to present as male when necessary or require coming out to everyone. This is much easier for the younger generations as their peers are much more receptive. Most baby boomers still view transgender as unacceptable. 

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Trusted Member     United States of America, North Carolina
Joined: 8 months ago

This is tough for me because my answer might change depending on the day.  I think that I am "two spirits" me and my twin brother.  I was born male but as I age my sister emerges more and more and she is a woman. Looking back, I realize that my twin sister has always been with me and she has let her brother live his life but now he is letter her out more.  Does she want to transition? Yes. Does she want to hurt her brother? No.  I know this may not make sense.   😊

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