You are lucky Mia to have such an understanding and supportive wife. My wife will comment on my outfits and make we wait in her more when I am dressed and clicking around the house in heels as she is disabled with MS. I talk of transition all the time but she says not till she is dead. So I have to have fun when I can. Being Miss Hope all the time is my desire. I start with a new therapist on Friday.
Hugs,
Hope
Totally, thank you.
He was very deceitful and a lier. I am not. Total honesty with both my wives.
Communication with my wife is much more open now. To a certain degree I can dress in her presence in our home (no kids as we are both senior citizens now).
With the help of my therapist I have been able to tell her that at my heart I am a woman, though I am sure she doesn't quite understand the full implications of my condition. We have shopped together for clothes for me. She has suggested she would like to get me a wig so she could see what I look like with a lady's hair style.
The one bridge I haven't crossed yet is introducing her to me, Charlene. Currently she sees her husband finding comfort by expressing his feminine side.. But I am so much more than that, I am me, Charlene Victoria. My desire is that she understand that dressed or not, I am a woman at heart. But especially when dressed I prefer being treated as another woman.
What slows this disclosure is the counsel of wives of trans women. What a wife told me (this was from a wife on either CDH or this platform, I don't remember). She was able to accept her husband as transgendered, but when she understood that at heart her husband was really a woman it changed the home dynamic for her. At that point there was now another woman in her home competing with her for her husband's time and attention. For her that reality was very difficult to handle.
So I approach the formal introduction of Charlene with hesitancy, concern for my wife's well being, and a desire to keep the stability and peace we have come to achieve with me being her husband expressing his feminine heart.
Being unknown as Charlene in our home creates a certain discomfort in me, but as I reason it, better me than her. As one said in a previous answer, even though his wife knew before they married that he was gender dysphoric, little did she know the implications of that condition. I disclosed my gender brokenness during our dating time, but I hadn't accepted that indeed at my core I am indeed a woman. I do now. And thus here we are now, working together to better understand and manage all that it means to be trans. My wife meeting Charlene seems to be the next big step in the management process.
Kindly,
Charlene
I know, with great certainty, that I am very fortunate in having a spouse who, openly and willingly, accepts me as the woman I truly am! She knows my life story, knows that I am intersex, and we share everything including clothes! We go everywhere and do everything as two women and she is totally comfortable with that.
Do I pass as a woman? I'll let her answer that question with what she told me last year: "If you didn't pass as a woman I wouldn't be comfortable with you."
I am very thankful that my spouse is okay living with another woman in her life.
