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HAVE YOU EVER ? (been out with a friend and/or friends who are like you ?)

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(@alexl)
Estimable Member     United Kingdom, Wiltshire, Marlborough, Wiltshire
Joined: 3 years ago

Haha...I was on here for years as Alex, Wendie, but there are so many Alex's on social media! So I use my real name Alexandria...but friends still call me Alex...which is fine. Nothing sinister honest lol
Alex x

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(@reallylauren)
Reputable Member     Canada, British Columbia, Victoria
Joined: 2 years ago

Yes I have, and still do on a regular basis. There is a very social community of Trans and non binary people here where I live. We're part of a social outreach for trans people that is sponsored by 'The Transgender Archives' and 'Transgender Studies' at the University of Victoria. There is an organized social event every month at the university and it is announced in a newsletter that is also sent out each month to members of the group. I also go out for coffee and shopping with other sisters. Victoria was listed in the last Canada Census as being the most trans friendly community in the country.
We recently had an anti trans group of people who came to protest in front of our version of the capital building, they showed up with about 30 people. The counter protest group also showed up - there were over TWO THOUSAND trans and non binary supporters and allies! The anti trans folks were literally overwhelmed.

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Ms. Lauren M

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(@wendiecross)
Eminent Member     United States of America, Mississippi, Biloxi
Joined: 1 year ago

Hearing about communities and groups that are friendly and not judgmental towards the LGBT+ population gives me hope that our sisters who find adversity on their journey will find peace.

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(@ellilynn)
Trusted Member     United States of America, Indiana, Bloomington
Joined: 12 months ago

It's just another part of this long strange trip I've been on for the last 70 years.  I've never been good at going to bars and meeting people, and never went to high school so I never learned about all that stuff when I was a teen.  My biggest problem with Bloomington is it's both a cultural and gastronomic wasteland so most of the places I would be interested in going to don't exist in this part of the country.  I have fairly recently learned about some groups that might be interesting through one of the Pride organizations in the area, but I keep spacing out the days they meet, or I get engaged in a project and forget the time.  I'll get it together eventually.  I'm normally extremely shy, so meeting new people has never been easy for me.  I just have to remember when the groups I'm interested in get together in time to join them.

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(@margprodue)
Estimable Member     United States of America, Wisconsin, Madison
Joined: 2 years ago

I'm out all the time and to a more than regular event about once a week.  Marg

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(@wendiecross)
Eminent Member     United States of America, Mississippi, Biloxi
Joined: 1 year ago

I feel the same excitement as you each and every time I step out. If I had one wish it would be to reach out to all those girls we know who haven't experienced what we have. To be that helping hand that would bring them all out to the exhilarating and freedom we feel when we go out.

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(@polly123)
    United States of America, New York, new york
Joined: 8 months ago

Yes, I often go out with them. Since I came out as transgender, my former friends have stopped seeing me, so I was still on my own for a long time. That feeling is still very uncomfortable, feeling that what you do is a person, very lonely. But then I met some good friends on groups, websites and apps. We started sharing our daily lives online, and then we agreed to meet. We don't live too far apart, so we hang out at least once a week. Gradually we got used to it. It's a really good feeling that we're all the same and we probably have the same experiences, so there's always a lot to talk about when we're hanging out.

And my boyfriend met on https://apps.apple.com/us/app/transgender-dating-transfun/id1601589816?l=en-u s">a transgender dating app. I think the Internet is really a super good thing, it can connect people who are far away from each other. So you can also go to some websites to see the people nearby, and maybe you will become good friends.

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(@Anonymous 25807)
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Joined: 1 year ago

Sort of, would be my answer. Years ago I finally accepted myself as trans and came out to a few people. Particularly a woman work colleague  I was friendly with. She totally accepted me. In fact she had thought I was gay because I seemed to be a feminine man. 

I also learned almost everyone in work thought I was gay. No one thought trans.

She totally got me. We lost touch for a few years but met up last year when she came to town for a holiday with her daughters. We met for dinner and later lunch. We just talked and talked. Two old friends. It was magic. Incidentally she has never seen me as Marie. But that didn't matter. 

No one has for a long time.

I  also meet up with two other women regularly. They don't know me as trans. But they both get me as the person I am. We meet for lunch and sometimes a little shopping. One is my wife's oldest friend. My wife knows and approves because it's friendship not an affair.

My wife knows I'm trans but doesn't want to. But she has gradually realised the upside. I  can do the man stuff but relate to her as a woman would. She never saw Marie either. 

It's a bit frustrating, no very frustrating but as I cannot transition. I have to make the best of it.

 

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