It’s like kids. They don’t come with instruction books either! Sounds like an opportunity to make a fortune! Anyway, in the meantime…
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There is a book that I would recommend that you both read:
Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Trans
(But Were Afraid To Ask)
by Brynn Tannehill
published in 2019 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers
I covers MANY different facets, including gender issues, political attacks by conservatives, medical and mental health, religion, scientific information and other topics. It is an extraordinarily well researched book, which is reinforced by the fact that the EndNotes cover 61 pages!
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