Therapy…. naw, not for me. Never saw the need for it.
I told my wife (of 29 yrs) last July of my CD/TG. I just came out (no pun intended) and told her. My dressing/makeup/bling was escalating and she would have found out eventually… so I thought best to tell her rather than her ‘accidentally’ finding out on her own. Who knows what thoughts may have gone through her mind. Didn’t want her to be hurt.
She was very apprehensive at first, but now is 99% on board.
Sounds like you are at the point where you need to tell someone… and that someone needs to be your wife. Don’t wait for ‘the right moment’, there will never be a right moment. Just sit her down and tell her. You’ll feel much better for it.
As you must be aware, the ‘Talk’ could go good, or it could go bad… or anywhere in between. Be prepared for the worst case scenario.
I hope all goes well for you…