Stephanie, I know how you feel and yes we all should seek therapy, hell my last few posts here I think had some of the admins trying to track my address to put me on a suicide watch. I can not tell you which way is the best way to start I can only tell you what I did. I first came out to my wife, and she has been helping me deal with this encouraging me to be me, and even to seek out others who are dealing with the same things I am. I mean hell she is even a member here to help support me, in that I know I was lucky. Not everyone will support you, but you will never know until you give them the chance. Your wife may be hurt and feel that you have been lying to her all these years. Or she may say well that explains a lot let’s go shopping I wanna see you in heels.
Like the kitty, cat poster says Hang in there. You are not alone on this path.