I am not 100% sure how to tell the kids, I haven’t even told my wife yet that I am questioning and need therapy.
However, there should be enough published literature to support the fact that this isn’t a choice, but rather you taking steps to be a better parent for them. That to me means more than putting up an improper front. I can’t see why a Trans parent would love and support their child any less than a CIS parent. The two are mutually exclusive.
I know I feel that way in relation to my kids, I love them and want to be the best parent I can be, whatever that may be.
Totally agree, but as the previous persons message, the ex is in shock and it was 2 years ago we divorced over it. Limited contact and she is going to say the risk of the same shock to the children. I do wish I’d told her before marriage but I didnt’, wasn’t in that place, as Krystal says I probably thought I would be able to live a normal life and be “cured” if I did the normal things. I soon found I didn’t want curing, and couldn’t stop the dressing etc so obviously it all went sour. So how when do I tell thi kids? Will it cause them harm? There is actually very little literature that can be used on this subject and things very bitter between us so not sure that she would support my findings anyway. In truth, something I’ve never said before but struck me whilst writing this it was only MY prejudices that made me keep it hidden. Now it’s in the public arena, I feel I need to tell kids before someone else mentions it.