I love what you said about “There is only she, no matter what stage of transition I’m in.” I’ve been going through this very awkward stage in my early transition. I’m moving away from this male persona that was my mode of expression all these years, but I’m no where close to a female persona, at least from a physical appearance. I’m in a very nebulous place. Clearly not one or the other. I have been holding off on my chosen name of Alicia. I chose that name as it was my grandmother’s, whom I loved, middle name. I felt it’s been really important to break free of my chosen name that I never really embraced, Carlos. So for me starting on this new path with an entirely new name has been essential. I’m very happy and love my name. Now, for me it’s allowing myself to embrace that part of me no matter how I look. I appreciate this discussion. Really helped me to move forward.