Reply To: Maintaining Trust in a Partnership

[Michelle Lawson]

Jojo, yes, that is a very difficult position you both are in. A situation that will require some very deep, honest, and sensitive soul searching. Like; what brought you both together? What did you expect out of the relationship? Where did you see the relationship in 5, 10, 25 years. What are really the necessary (must have) aspects of the relationship. And answering those will take some very honest conversation. From the example you provided, she “is attracted to masculine features”. So, have her show you pictures of what that means in her mind. Did you ever have those features? if you didn’t, then does that suggest she was wishing you did, or wanting to get you to that. And if the latter, is she really just mad at herself because she failed to change you? But this is just the tip of the iceberg. It goes both ways. Michelle