It’s good that you joined us! We’re so glad to have you.
So, after the initial coming out phase, what’s next? Many find that a very difficult question as this is uncharted water for just about all of us.
Our minds work under, to borrow a Star Trek term, a Prime Directive. Survival is utmost and it does that by avoiding danger and conflicts in order to keep our stress levels and anxiety low. The problem is that trans people considering their gender identity, or gay people considering their sexuality for that matter, creates a lot of tension and anxiety because it goes against how we thought our lives would likely go. It also goes against societal expectations and how we have been conditioned. So, our minds try to divert us from thinking about these heavyweight issues. Many members have been helped by working with therapist as it is helpful to stay focused on the important questions and not get diverted.
However, what is important is to find a therapist with experience in gender issues. There are many good therapists, but not everyone has this background and experience.
Please complete your Profile page. It helps other members to understand you and your journey. Note that your Profile page is always readily available and can be updates at any time if something changes.
Also, transgenderED has fallen out of use. While you may find it in dictionaries, the implication is that something happened to “make” us transgender. Medical science is continuing to move further and further away from that thought as it is becoming increasingly clear that it isn’t the case. Also, we don’t say gayED or lesbianED.