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Annette,
As my therapist constantly reminds me, it’s not either or.
If it were me in these circumstances, I would fly there in October and initially present in male mode. I would keep my name and pronouns. This will bridge the time gap of father and husband. You will be there to celebrate their nost important days in October. It would break my heart if I missed those celebrations.
You are there an entire month. Once the bonds have been reestablished, I would transition while there to Annette so by the time you leave, you leave as yourself and you would have established yourself as Annette with your family.
When you see them again in December, they will know exactly who you are coming to see them, your wife and family.
Gabrielle