I am 39 as well and admire your conviction. I think we all have different circumstances and completely agree that there will be a wide range of opinions. I have a cousin who is a cis woman who is 6’3″ or 6’4″ and she has no other choice but to love herself, as they are her genes…So my suggestion would be to love thyself, and do what makes you happy. I am in the process of atruly accepting myself and have the weight of a family to consider.
Take care and wish you the best,