Reply To: Looking for advice

[Charlotte Hill]

It’s okay to be uncomfortable with the pronoun “it” in reference to your child. “It” refers to a “thing” or an “object,” which is never a good thing. I might suggest that you propose to your child the pronoun “they.” I know it’s not a perfect solution, referring to your child as a plurality is a bit awkward especially at first. However, it has the benefit of referring to your kid as something more than a “thing.” Anyway, from what I hear, all the “cool” gender noncomforming kids, do kids even use the word cool anymore, use this pronoun. Also, it is a good choice to use until a better option comes up. Anyway, I hope this will help. 🙂