Congrats for being honest with yourself and your wife. Good for you!
I am one step behind you in that I haven’t come out to my wife yet. I have found some other resources for her when that time comes, which is soon.
I have been working on accepting myself and know there is nothing wrong with being Trans, but it’s a process for me, as my dysphoria was mild but lately has been increasing to more moderate. For me, I believe my 1st step will be talking to a therapist about my experiences, history and life to help sort me out…but am fearful as I deeply care about my family.